PLEASE PLEASE HELP IM IN SUCH A MESS BECAUSE OF ALL OF THIS?

My friend and i have always have a sort of friends with benefits relationship, (we are best friends but we kiss and stuff). But on Saturday night he text me and said, “what if i tell you to stop loving me and move on”. I got really upset, i asked him why he was saying this to me and he replied that his ex girlfriend was saying stuff to him, and that he does want to hurt me or get hurt himself. I thought that meant that he is going back to his ex girlfriend; i can’t take that because i love him much more than a friend and he feels the same about me. But yesterday, i got really upset again about what he said on Saturday. He told me that he loves me more than anything but we cannot start a relationship until he is free of his burden (ex-girlfriend) so he can love me properly. Because he feels that our relationship will not last if we start it now. He also said that he wants it to last and he doesn’t want me to be the girl he rebounds off. He also said that i mean the world to him and all he wants is for me to be happy. But on Sunday, i decided that we needed to talk (the day before we met up and i screamed at him, then started crying and went home early), he was busy and said that he was really sorry but he has to talk later. When he was finally free i text him:



';Listen, the thing is waiting for you to be over _______ requires loads of strength. But I’m happy that you told me how you feel about her. I keep pushing you away from me because I don’t know how to deal with this. I don’t want to push you away; I need you with me, to make this get better. I want to wait for you and obviously I still want you but it’s hard. I don’t know how long it is going to take. I want to wait. If you still want me. But I don’t know what you want anymore';.



He replied, ';your stupid text pissed me off';.



I was soooo upset and then got really really angry. Because i told him exactly how i felt about him, it was so hard to do but i then text him:



';Why are you acting this way? I thought you loved me but it doesn’t look that way, I thought you wanted me to be happy; so put me out of my misery and tell me what is one your mind. If my happiness doesn’t mean **** to you then I don’t know why I am waiting for you. Because now you are not saying anything means that you do not obviously love me anymore. And I have to move on. How many more times can I beg you to tell me how you feel? How much longer can I wait all day for your texts but they never come? How much longer can I wait for you to be over Saima when you won’t, because there is no reason for you to be over her? How much longer can I love you for when you don’t love me?';



He did not reply, this text was sent at 11pm last night.



What should i do next?



xxxPLEASE PLEASE HELP IM IN SUCH A MESS BECAUSE OF ALL OF THIS?
It sounds like he doesn't want to let her go, and he likes having you there waiting on him too, as long as you're not a bother. You probably care for him a lot more than he cares about you - it may not be easy to accept, but sometimes you just have to cut your losses %26amp; move on.



By the way, text may not be the best way to talk about your feelings with someone. I'm not saying you should continue to pursue him - that is up to you. But consider how the absence of vocal tone %26amp; body language in a text can make your words sound angry or confrontational even if you didn't intend for them to be read that way.PLEASE PLEASE HELP IM IN SUCH A MESS BECAUSE OF ALL OF THIS?
Hes playing head games with you..move on..quickly!
you should obviously give him space and time to figure evrything out with himself and you. if he really means what he says he'llcome back, just wait for him.
Learn! He gave you his answer. Don't beg him to change it. You said that it was a friendship with benefits. You got caught up! You mentioned the word love. In his mind, it's not love, just sex. You put the cart before the horse.
if he cares so much for you and want to be with you he should just tell saima that it is over like he told you how he felt about you. and let it be over, no matter how he do it someone is going to be hurt breaking -up always is. so tell her and be done with it or let you go and let you move on. don't do anything this is not the end of the world let him get back in touch with you. you have told him how you feel so let him solve hi problem with saima. be cool and calm down.
Stop texting! Stop talking to him. It will drive him nuts. It seems you want this man for yourself? So stop trying! If he wants you he will come get you. No more sex until he commits to you. Absence makes the heart grow fonder! Come on girl you know how to manipulate a man. Show him you just don't care ( when really you do) and he will come running back to you. It works it's how my wife got me to come back to her, we have be together 9 years.
it's both; you're being all over him and too careful of what is his position while he doesn't seem to be as though, plus, he's not worthy of you coz if he was he wouldn't be hovering over what his ex told him or whatever. if he's not sure about you too and he's snappish enough to not even reply with a txt that atleast adress the matter then he's not the one for you. love equals appreciation, which is sth missing from his part. if it was for me i'd hv left him behind from the moment he mentioned his ex.
Do not contact him again unless he does it first.

He is not that into you.