do you support illegal immigration I sure as **** don't,,, here is why....
This is for ALL AMERICANS out there
illegal immigrate is not from any selected nation but anyone who migrate with out approval from that selected Government. They could be criminals will to do harm to YOUR family, or Terrorists trying to get in the country to make another attack with may kill YOUR family, The government has laws on this for a reason. but congress fails to enforce them...
First let me show there side
they come over here for a better life for them and there family make there family money here cause our money is worth more then there currency. some don't even know English an how to read English and if they do, you can hardly understand them and in there rare case they do speak with out a accent there still harming Americas.
Now our side.
Ok now many of the US citizens i am speaking to where born here work many years to earn money to make damn sure there is food on the table for there family and pay bills and taxes so there is a house over there heads, some need two (2) jobs to do that,, my uncle once need three (3) but he did it and was proud he did cause his family got to eat and a place to sleep.
many of us only need one (1) job to get by maybe work over time every so often to make sure the kids have food are safe and have a good school to go to. But...
Just try to pretend this IS you and the situation is real.
You went to work to day your boss calls you in to his office tells you that your wage is to much for (Where every you work) to pay so where going to half to let you go.... Now your going home how do you tell you family you got Fired from your job and can only rely on you savings for a few weeks or months. The economy is bad so getting a new job will be vary hard to do. what do you do, move back in with your parents or other family member or friend, cut down on spending, use less water, power, go to that bathroom out side to reduce the sewage bill, ware lots of clothing in cold weather or open the windows if its hot, sell a few things, cash in you savings bonds, apply for unemployment?
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I would go out of my mind and age 20 years worrying if i was going to be able to feed my kids and keep the house over there head's.
And all of that could have been avoided if that person that took your job because he works for less then minimum wage was unable to take your job in the first place.
Don't tell me i am bias because I know i am on this subject and that IS a NON-bias FACT as to what happens i know this because my friends entire family lost there jobs and moved in with us of a year.
dont try and say anything sweet or try and turn the table on me with some fancy **** as why he/she has the right to come here and cause all that avoidable damage to a family who needs that job.
dont try and say that it only happen to my friends family cause it did not I assure you its less exclusive to just my friends family.
sure some stuff may be different maybe you have saved lost of money and can find a job before your money runs out but maybe you dont have any money in savings or maybe you dont even have a savings, your circumstances may differ but all that could have been avoided.
Im sure you would even help you enemy from such a thing, no one shood be with out a house, be unable to feed there kids and them self for any reason.
Now i ask you
Do you support illegal immigration
Or the removal of them all.How many people support illegal immigration, or the removal of them all.?
i don't support them at all. they are making things worse for us. they are taking our jobs because they are willing to work for less wages and they are over crowding our schools which is affecting our children education.How many people support illegal immigration, or the removal of them all.?
Deport them when they are found, and step up the finding process! No more freebies, no more anchor baby law, fine employers heavily etc. Stop the madness!
Removal of them all and prison for anyone that hires or houses them!They are war criminals and should be treated as such.
I don't support illegal immigration, but buck is right.
I wish we would just kill them all and their demon spawn rugrats.
Neither one.
I do support learning English (spelling, grammar etc.) before suggesting someone else learn it.
';First let me show there side';
';they come over here for a better life for them and there family make there family money here cause our money is worth more then there currency. some don't even know English an how to read English and if they do, you can hardly understand them and in there rare case they do speak with out a accent there still harming Americas.';
';They'; should be capitalized. ';there'; should be their, ';cause'; should be because, ';an'; should be and, it should not be ';you can hardly'; it should be ';one can hardly';, and ';in the (not there) rare case'; ';with out'; should be without, and I am not sure what ';Americas'; means.
So easy to criticize other people, it takes much more time and effort to see our own shortcomings..
';shood be'; ???? ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ok you write down a novel for nothing because this is the reality
1.more than 22 million of illegal immigrants already live in USA
2.we deport 1% of illegal immigrants a year
3.The Federal refuse to enforced the immigration law
4.we already pay million of dollars to deport illegal immigrants
the only logic solution is to legalize the 22 million of illegal immigrants
and in the same time reinforce our borders surveillance in order to stop
those who try to cross our borders illegally..
PS for all those who believe we should just enforced the immigration law
they also should consider about the cost because it will be million of dollars
for the next 10 years
moral it will cost less to give to them the amnesty and make them pay the taxes
Sunday, December 11, 2011
My best friend left me for her boyfriend. have any similar stories?
We were friends since my freshman year in high school, now I'm almost 19. We called each other every night, planned to move out together as soon as I found a job and she turned 18, etc.
Last March we both got new boyfriends. Little did I know that our friendship would start to dissolve. She was over at our boyfriends apartment every day and night (our boyfriends are friends lol). She new that we weren't getting to see each other as much and said she felt bad. But she continued.
Our boyfriends stopped having their apartment together and moved back in with their parents temporarily over the summer (last year). We weren't texting very much anymore.
She started smoking weed all the time, and I needed to find a job - so it's not like I was going to do that.
By August, her 18th birthday approached and she talked to me about moving together but I said we shouldn't since she started smoking cigarettes and she wanted to smoke inside (when I don't smoke at all!). and I knew her boyfriend wanted to move in with her. They were glued to each other.
So in september I got lost and couldn't find a bus to get back home (she had her boyfriend pick me up - just him- she was at work) and we were talking and I asked how he was and he said he was getting ready to move the furniture and stuff into the apartment. And I was like ';oh what apartment?'; and he looked shocked and said that he and my ';best friend'; were moving in together in like a week! I didn't mind, I was just shocked because she didn't tell me anything! and when I texted her asking about it she said she wanted to tell me and was upset that her boyfriend accidentally told me.
Then a month later she starts talking to me asking if my tattoo hurt too much when I got it. I said it didn't hurt an insane amount but it definitely hurt. I said why are you getting one? and she said yes and I was like ';oh I want to come!'; she had been there when I got mine and I said (when we were still close) that I totally had to go with her for hers. She said ';in five minutes!'; I was like X_X! I couldn't believe it. I was like why didn't you tell me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and she just said she thought I would be too busy.
Then in December I gave her this neat thing that lights up and creates bubbles in water (kind of like a late housewarming gift) and we hugged (we never hug) and the next day I asked if she set it up yet and she said she was too busy. That's the last I've talked to her. So yes its been about a month and a half.
During the span of time of our dissolving friendship I went through a series of depressions that would sometimes last a couple days. I would burst into tears at a sudden thought of her, and it caused me a great deal of pain.
It was like waking up with your arm or leg amputated and you don't know why.
Do you have any helpful comments or stories?
I'm trying to purge her out of my life. That's why I saw her in the december of last year, to get rid of my baggage and not deal with it in the new year. It's like a goal to never see her AGAIN EVER.
Thanks for reading.My best friend left me for her boyfriend. have any similar stories?
well this may not happend to everyone but it has happended to alot of people , it happened to me too but the thing is you have to figue out what you wanna do with your life and not depend on how she treat you , thats the best i can tell you , i know you decided to shut her out of your life which is a good thing but dont let it bother you , you are here posting so it's still that you are still worry and think about her , just don't , just forget it , it will make you much happierMy best friend left me for her boyfriend. have any similar stories?
Something like that happened to me. Very different, but I did lose a friend, and I was very upset. And for a long time, too. My friend had a lot of troubles in her life and I was very, very, very young. She told me too many things I couldn't handle at that age. It made depressed. Really depressed. I slowly tried to inch myself away from her. I found out she was backstabbing me, and telling people secrets about me. I just cut myself off. When she invited me over I said no, because when I went over I would be sad. I made new friends. When I lost her it was hard but I got through it. I needed to be away from her. She was my first and last best friend. I miss having someone I can tell everything to but I do not miss her. She moved to a new school and eventually we could just say hello and make small talk.
Bahh. I guess my story isn't similar to yours but maybe it's comforting to know you aren't the only one who lost a friend, and kind of lost track of what was going on between each other.
Last March we both got new boyfriends. Little did I know that our friendship would start to dissolve. She was over at our boyfriends apartment every day and night (our boyfriends are friends lol). She new that we weren't getting to see each other as much and said she felt bad. But she continued.
Our boyfriends stopped having their apartment together and moved back in with their parents temporarily over the summer (last year). We weren't texting very much anymore.
She started smoking weed all the time, and I needed to find a job - so it's not like I was going to do that.
By August, her 18th birthday approached and she talked to me about moving together but I said we shouldn't since she started smoking cigarettes and she wanted to smoke inside (when I don't smoke at all!). and I knew her boyfriend wanted to move in with her. They were glued to each other.
So in september I got lost and couldn't find a bus to get back home (she had her boyfriend pick me up - just him- she was at work) and we were talking and I asked how he was and he said he was getting ready to move the furniture and stuff into the apartment. And I was like ';oh what apartment?'; and he looked shocked and said that he and my ';best friend'; were moving in together in like a week! I didn't mind, I was just shocked because she didn't tell me anything! and when I texted her asking about it she said she wanted to tell me and was upset that her boyfriend accidentally told me.
Then a month later she starts talking to me asking if my tattoo hurt too much when I got it. I said it didn't hurt an insane amount but it definitely hurt. I said why are you getting one? and she said yes and I was like ';oh I want to come!'; she had been there when I got mine and I said (when we were still close) that I totally had to go with her for hers. She said ';in five minutes!'; I was like X_X! I couldn't believe it. I was like why didn't you tell me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and she just said she thought I would be too busy.
Then in December I gave her this neat thing that lights up and creates bubbles in water (kind of like a late housewarming gift) and we hugged (we never hug) and the next day I asked if she set it up yet and she said she was too busy. That's the last I've talked to her. So yes its been about a month and a half.
During the span of time of our dissolving friendship I went through a series of depressions that would sometimes last a couple days. I would burst into tears at a sudden thought of her, and it caused me a great deal of pain.
It was like waking up with your arm or leg amputated and you don't know why.
Do you have any helpful comments or stories?
I'm trying to purge her out of my life. That's why I saw her in the december of last year, to get rid of my baggage and not deal with it in the new year. It's like a goal to never see her AGAIN EVER.
Thanks for reading.My best friend left me for her boyfriend. have any similar stories?
well this may not happend to everyone but it has happended to alot of people , it happened to me too but the thing is you have to figue out what you wanna do with your life and not depend on how she treat you , thats the best i can tell you , i know you decided to shut her out of your life which is a good thing but dont let it bother you , you are here posting so it's still that you are still worry and think about her , just don't , just forget it , it will make you much happierMy best friend left me for her boyfriend. have any similar stories?
Something like that happened to me. Very different, but I did lose a friend, and I was very upset. And for a long time, too. My friend had a lot of troubles in her life and I was very, very, very young. She told me too many things I couldn't handle at that age. It made depressed. Really depressed. I slowly tried to inch myself away from her. I found out she was backstabbing me, and telling people secrets about me. I just cut myself off. When she invited me over I said no, because when I went over I would be sad. I made new friends. When I lost her it was hard but I got through it. I needed to be away from her. She was my first and last best friend. I miss having someone I can tell everything to but I do not miss her. She moved to a new school and eventually we could just say hello and make small talk.
Bahh. I guess my story isn't similar to yours but maybe it's comforting to know you aren't the only one who lost a friend, and kind of lost track of what was going on between each other.
My best friend left me for her boyfriend. have any similar stories?
We were friends since my freshman year in high school, now I'm almost 19. We called each other every night, planned to move out together as soon as I found a job and she turned 18, etc.
Last March we both got new boyfriends. Little did I know that our friendship would start to dissolve. She was over at our boyfriends apartment every day and night (our boyfriends are friends lol). She new that we weren't getting to see each other as much and said she felt bad. But she continued.
Our boyfriends stopped having their apartment together and moved back in with their parents temporarily over the summer (last year). We weren't texting very much anymore.
She started smoking weed all the time, and I needed to find a job - so it's not like I was going to do that.
By August, her 18th birthday approached and she talked to me about moving together but I said we shouldn't since she started smoking cigarettes and she wanted to smoke inside (when I don't smoke at all!). and I knew her boyfriend wanted to move in with her. They were glued to each other.
So in september I got lost and couldn't find a bus to get back home (she had her boyfriend pick me up - just him- she was at work) and we were talking and I asked how he was and he said he was getting ready to move the furniture and stuff into the apartment. And I was like ';oh what apartment?'; and he looked shocked and said that he and my ';best friend'; were moving in together in like a week! I didn't mind, I was just shocked because she didn't tell me anything! and when I texted her asking about it she said she wanted to tell me and was upset that her boyfriend accidentally told me.
Then a month later she starts talking to me asking if my tattoo hurt too much when I got it. I said it didn't hurt an insane amount but it definitely hurt. I said why are you getting one? and she said yes and I was like ';oh I want to come!'; she had been there when I got mine and I said (when we were still close) that I totally had to go with her for hers. She said ';in five minutes!'; I was like X_X! I couldn't believe it. I was like why didn't you tell me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and she just said she thought I would be too busy.
Then in December I gave her this neat thing that lights up and creates bubbles in water (kind of like a late housewarming gift) and we hugged (we never hug) and the next day I asked if she set it up yet and she said she was too busy. That's the last I've talked to her. So yes its been about a month and a half.
During the span of time of our dissolving friendship I went through a series of depressions that would sometimes last a couple days. I would burst into tears at a sudden thought of her, and it caused me a great deal of pain.
It was like waking up with your arm or leg amputated and you don't know why.
Do you have any helpful comments or stories?
I'm trying to purge her out of my life. That's why I saw her in the december of last year, to get rid of my baggage and not deal with it in the new year.
Thanks for readingMy best friend left me for her boyfriend. have any similar stories?
It sounds like you two are just growing apart. Different interests, different life-paths. We don't always stay friends with our friends from High School. I had the same best friend from Kindergarten though High School graduation. After that we kept in touch a little bit, but I honestly haven't spoken to him in probably 3 or 4 years.
It can be frustrating or hurtful, but it's not inherently bad. You don't have to dislike her if your growing apart, just accept that that's the way things are sometimes.
If you REALLY want to remain close, verbalize this to her. Tell her how you feel in a kind and understanding way. Tell her that you recognize your drifting apart, and that if it were up to you that would not happen. The reality is that it may not be up to you, but if you approach it calmly and rationally I'm sure she will understand where you're coming from. Good luck!
Last March we both got new boyfriends. Little did I know that our friendship would start to dissolve. She was over at our boyfriends apartment every day and night (our boyfriends are friends lol). She new that we weren't getting to see each other as much and said she felt bad. But she continued.
Our boyfriends stopped having their apartment together and moved back in with their parents temporarily over the summer (last year). We weren't texting very much anymore.
She started smoking weed all the time, and I needed to find a job - so it's not like I was going to do that.
By August, her 18th birthday approached and she talked to me about moving together but I said we shouldn't since she started smoking cigarettes and she wanted to smoke inside (when I don't smoke at all!). and I knew her boyfriend wanted to move in with her. They were glued to each other.
So in september I got lost and couldn't find a bus to get back home (she had her boyfriend pick me up - just him- she was at work) and we were talking and I asked how he was and he said he was getting ready to move the furniture and stuff into the apartment. And I was like ';oh what apartment?'; and he looked shocked and said that he and my ';best friend'; were moving in together in like a week! I didn't mind, I was just shocked because she didn't tell me anything! and when I texted her asking about it she said she wanted to tell me and was upset that her boyfriend accidentally told me.
Then a month later she starts talking to me asking if my tattoo hurt too much when I got it. I said it didn't hurt an insane amount but it definitely hurt. I said why are you getting one? and she said yes and I was like ';oh I want to come!'; she had been there when I got mine and I said (when we were still close) that I totally had to go with her for hers. She said ';in five minutes!'; I was like X_X! I couldn't believe it. I was like why didn't you tell me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and she just said she thought I would be too busy.
Then in December I gave her this neat thing that lights up and creates bubbles in water (kind of like a late housewarming gift) and we hugged (we never hug) and the next day I asked if she set it up yet and she said she was too busy. That's the last I've talked to her. So yes its been about a month and a half.
During the span of time of our dissolving friendship I went through a series of depressions that would sometimes last a couple days. I would burst into tears at a sudden thought of her, and it caused me a great deal of pain.
It was like waking up with your arm or leg amputated and you don't know why.
Do you have any helpful comments or stories?
I'm trying to purge her out of my life. That's why I saw her in the december of last year, to get rid of my baggage and not deal with it in the new year.
Thanks for readingMy best friend left me for her boyfriend. have any similar stories?
It sounds like you two are just growing apart. Different interests, different life-paths. We don't always stay friends with our friends from High School. I had the same best friend from Kindergarten though High School graduation. After that we kept in touch a little bit, but I honestly haven't spoken to him in probably 3 or 4 years.
It can be frustrating or hurtful, but it's not inherently bad. You don't have to dislike her if your growing apart, just accept that that's the way things are sometimes.
If you REALLY want to remain close, verbalize this to her. Tell her how you feel in a kind and understanding way. Tell her that you recognize your drifting apart, and that if it were up to you that would not happen. The reality is that it may not be up to you, but if you approach it calmly and rationally I'm sure she will understand where you're coming from. Good luck!
Need advice on complicated trust situation?
Quick rundown:
.Our marriage was shaky for a long time (each felt lonely)
.We have two kids, 4 and 6
.10 years ago I sent several emails to an escort service, asking about the process, etc ( when, where, how much etc )
.My wife found the emails. I felt sorry, embarrassed, I obviously stopped the BS.
.Now about 8 months ago I found my wife was texting a neighbour guy
. When confronted, she said it was just a friend and that it was about a business she wanted to start.
. That she didn't tell me because she thought I didn't like the business idea.
. I said that was BS, got really mad, and she said ';ok, started as a business thing, but we became friends, but there is nothing going on';.
. Again I didn't believe that and told her ';this is your last chance to tell the truth, I ll get the SMS records from the phone company';.
. Then she said, no no don't do that, ok there were only a few inappropriate messages ( sex stuff, that ';started innocent, and it got out of hand'; ).
.They had this relationship for about 2.5 months, texting constantly all day.
. After confronting her, we had a big argument, blow up, whatever you call it. I felt devastated, humiliated, etc
.That night though I calmed down, said that I would forgive her, that I understood the feeling of being wanted, and that It could ve very well have been me on her shoes.
. I also told her that I was relieved that that was it ( just messages ), and that this was a great opportunity for us to get together again, get close to each other, and work on our marriage.
. After that I went to the guy's house, and told him to leave my family alone. ( the guy lives 4 houses down, this fact alone prevents me from forgetting )
. A week later, I find out she is still sending this guy messages through Facebook, and obviously concealing them from me.
. I confronted her, and she said '; I don't know why I am doing this, I have low self esteem issues, and after you went to his house I felt he would hate me, and I felt that I still had to message, and be nice, and still be liked';. All of which I thought was really ****** up if true, but who am I to judge what is happening in her head. I was personally dumbfounded, in disbelief, I could not believe her poor judgement.
. For the next month and a half I was very depressed, and we were on shaky ground, but I still wanted to keep our marriage together.
. I completely lost trust in her, and got really paranoid about what else I didn't know. Felt that my life was a complete lie.
. In the meantime she was on the phone with her friends and family, trashing me ( ';he is so selfish, he is paranoid that I ll be talking to my friends about stuff I shouldn't ( our personal problems ), or that I ll be talking crap about him to my family, he is like a child, he needs to grow up...'; etc )
. I caught one of this conversations with her mother, and that just sent me to a really deep black hole, which I am still not out of.
. My mental state has changed completely, my work is not the same, I am certainly depressed, very angry, resentful. ( 8 months after )
. I still want to keep the family together, and she says that she does too.
. My mind though is really playing tricks on me, and even though I want to let all that stuff go, and move forward, and be positive; my thoughts don't quite let me. I keep thinking I should distrust her completely. That she ll never be there for me if I need her. That she has no repect whatsoever for me, etc etc etc. It makes my day to day life miserable to say the least.
Can you please comment on this, and give me advice ?
ThanksNeed advice on complicated trust situation?
You two need couples counseling %26amp; fast.
If this keeps up I see either you or her leaving the marriage.Need advice on complicated trust situation?
You guys need counseling if both of you are that lonely inside of a relationship.
Try counseling!
Wow. I think if you want to keep the marriage together you have to move. I know it sounds extreme, but big decisions call for big actions. She's already formed a bond with this guy and that's going to be hard to break with him being 4 houses down. You don't trust her, she doesn't trust you. Get a therapist and work on this with your wife. You'll have to set up ground rules that you're both comfortable with and follow them to a T. It's not going to be easy but people have gotten over worse.
boss, it is very weak situation there. try couple therapy. if you both are willing there tons of articles on web that you should read together. AT the end of the day, it up to both of you. Do not give up.
I have a one for normal situations but this one is really a big one. I wonder how she can even think like this. you have two kids. I would say go away for few days on vacation. leave kids with grand parents. take one week off to discuss and build back the days you have been happy.
I think your wife talks a lot but don't act much. She wants to keep the marriage together but will keep a 'relationship' behind your back, bad mouth you to her mother etc. Seriously, can you sit down and each write down what you want to change in your marriage, how things should be, what's acceptable what's not and both agree to change. No efforts...no marriage, that's where you're at.
..and like everyone said, invest in counseling.
Therapy, both of you, separately and jointly. NOW.
you def. have a very valid reason to be so upset..demand either she stop the contact with him or she move herself on in with him...she can't help you fix your marriage if she's focused on someone else....
To be honest with you, This kind of woman that can not control her behavior is unreliable and unstable and I would start a new life away from her if I were you.
.Our marriage was shaky for a long time (each felt lonely)
.We have two kids, 4 and 6
.10 years ago I sent several emails to an escort service, asking about the process, etc ( when, where, how much etc )
.My wife found the emails. I felt sorry, embarrassed, I obviously stopped the BS.
.Now about 8 months ago I found my wife was texting a neighbour guy
. When confronted, she said it was just a friend and that it was about a business she wanted to start.
. That she didn't tell me because she thought I didn't like the business idea.
. I said that was BS, got really mad, and she said ';ok, started as a business thing, but we became friends, but there is nothing going on';.
. Again I didn't believe that and told her ';this is your last chance to tell the truth, I ll get the SMS records from the phone company';.
. Then she said, no no don't do that, ok there were only a few inappropriate messages ( sex stuff, that ';started innocent, and it got out of hand'; ).
.They had this relationship for about 2.5 months, texting constantly all day.
. After confronting her, we had a big argument, blow up, whatever you call it. I felt devastated, humiliated, etc
.That night though I calmed down, said that I would forgive her, that I understood the feeling of being wanted, and that It could ve very well have been me on her shoes.
. I also told her that I was relieved that that was it ( just messages ), and that this was a great opportunity for us to get together again, get close to each other, and work on our marriage.
. After that I went to the guy's house, and told him to leave my family alone. ( the guy lives 4 houses down, this fact alone prevents me from forgetting )
. A week later, I find out she is still sending this guy messages through Facebook, and obviously concealing them from me.
. I confronted her, and she said '; I don't know why I am doing this, I have low self esteem issues, and after you went to his house I felt he would hate me, and I felt that I still had to message, and be nice, and still be liked';. All of which I thought was really ****** up if true, but who am I to judge what is happening in her head. I was personally dumbfounded, in disbelief, I could not believe her poor judgement.
. For the next month and a half I was very depressed, and we were on shaky ground, but I still wanted to keep our marriage together.
. I completely lost trust in her, and got really paranoid about what else I didn't know. Felt that my life was a complete lie.
. In the meantime she was on the phone with her friends and family, trashing me ( ';he is so selfish, he is paranoid that I ll be talking to my friends about stuff I shouldn't ( our personal problems ), or that I ll be talking crap about him to my family, he is like a child, he needs to grow up...'; etc )
. I caught one of this conversations with her mother, and that just sent me to a really deep black hole, which I am still not out of.
. My mental state has changed completely, my work is not the same, I am certainly depressed, very angry, resentful. ( 8 months after )
. I still want to keep the family together, and she says that she does too.
. My mind though is really playing tricks on me, and even though I want to let all that stuff go, and move forward, and be positive; my thoughts don't quite let me. I keep thinking I should distrust her completely. That she ll never be there for me if I need her. That she has no repect whatsoever for me, etc etc etc. It makes my day to day life miserable to say the least.
Can you please comment on this, and give me advice ?
ThanksNeed advice on complicated trust situation?
You two need couples counseling %26amp; fast.
If this keeps up I see either you or her leaving the marriage.Need advice on complicated trust situation?
You guys need counseling if both of you are that lonely inside of a relationship.
Try counseling!
Wow. I think if you want to keep the marriage together you have to move. I know it sounds extreme, but big decisions call for big actions. She's already formed a bond with this guy and that's going to be hard to break with him being 4 houses down. You don't trust her, she doesn't trust you. Get a therapist and work on this with your wife. You'll have to set up ground rules that you're both comfortable with and follow them to a T. It's not going to be easy but people have gotten over worse.
boss, it is very weak situation there. try couple therapy. if you both are willing there tons of articles on web that you should read together. AT the end of the day, it up to both of you. Do not give up.
I have a one for normal situations but this one is really a big one. I wonder how she can even think like this. you have two kids. I would say go away for few days on vacation. leave kids with grand parents. take one week off to discuss and build back the days you have been happy.
I think your wife talks a lot but don't act much. She wants to keep the marriage together but will keep a 'relationship' behind your back, bad mouth you to her mother etc. Seriously, can you sit down and each write down what you want to change in your marriage, how things should be, what's acceptable what's not and both agree to change. No efforts...no marriage, that's where you're at.
..and like everyone said, invest in counseling.
Therapy, both of you, separately and jointly. NOW.
you def. have a very valid reason to be so upset..demand either she stop the contact with him or she move herself on in with him...she can't help you fix your marriage if she's focused on someone else....
To be honest with you, This kind of woman that can not control her behavior is unreliable and unstable and I would start a new life away from her if I were you.
I need help choosing between two girls. Please help.?
The first girl [perla] knows that i like her but she tells me that she isn't looking for a boyfriend rite now %26amp; the second girl [marie] idk why but i feel the vibe [if you know what i mean] that she likes me. Well i talk two perla only on myspace cuz she has no minutes on her phone so she only texts and i can't text or i talk two her when i see her at church %26amp; marie, i can talk two her whenever cuz i can call her or myspace her. Some of my friends think that perla likes me cuz of the conversations we had, like i was sick one day and i told her and she was like awww pobrecito [poor baby, basically] and i was like yeahh i know then i said you wanna be my doctor lol then she said lol what can i do for you and i said you can be my medicine i need a daily dose of you everyday then she said will that make you feel better today 4sho and i said yeahh but i'mma need my dose for tomorrow, the next day and so on trust me i can't OD on you then she said alrite sounds firme [kool] yeahh i can do that for you so cuz of that i decided two surprise her with a song [freestyle] but i ended telling her before i finished and she was like awww your sweet and stuff like that and i was like yeahh thats how i would treat you if you were my girl and then she was like yeahh but i'm not looking for a boyfriend rite now and i was like yeahh i know you told me before and i told her that my problem is that i tend to try two move things two fast yuhh know then she said yeahh just let things go with the flow and i said yeahh i'mma try two take it slow and let things go with the flow then she said with a smiley face sounds like a plan. another time i didn't message her for like about a week and then one day i get a message from her with a sad face saying forgot about me and i said nahh never why then she just wrote back with a sad face and i said whats wrong then she said its cuz i feel like you forgot about me or replaced me and i said nahh i didn't forget about you and trust me you're irreplacable you're always on my mind and you're always gonna have a place in my heart and she wrote back awww i feel special now and yeahh so on haha plus i always compliment her every once in awhile. well with marie i met her this year in february and yeahh i started liking her from the get go cuz personality wise she was just like me well not like exactly as me but kinda yuhh know and yeahh i'd compliment her and stuff i even wrote her a poem and thats when she said aww your so sweet and i would so go out with you but you live kinda far how will we see each other and i was like yeahh true [but now i can drive or take the bus two see marie and she lives like about 14 minutes away and perla live like about 20 minutes away] and after that we talked a little more and we just stopped and just recently we started talking again and i started liking her again but at the same time i like perla and thats when i started losing my mind one piece at a time cuz idk what two do, idk who two pick. I just wanna make the rite decision yuhh know. someone please help me i'm begging. if you need two know more stuff just let me know and i'll add it on the detail part. thanks.I need help choosing between two girls. Please help.?
Let the girls choose if they want you. You can not choose them. Choosing the best is always better for the girl to do.I need help choosing between two girls. Please help.?
Dont choose , do them both, (sorry I did not read the novel of a question)
Always go with the Veronica.
How could someone help you decide what makes you happy?? You can figure this out on your own. It's odd to ask others.
You go to church? I thought murdering the english language was a sin or something.
choose da 1 u like da mostttttt
be with the one that you dont want to see with anyone else- the one who makes you happy
PlEaSe HeLp Me %26lt;3
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I actually read the entire thing.
You should have added a works cited page since you used a lot of lyrics from songs.
Anyway, keep in touch with both girls, but move on with your life.
I think it will do you good to explore the outside world, maybe outside the walls of myspace or text messaging or little immature boy and girls.
I actually read that, ahhaa.
That was a novel.
But anyways,
I think Perla sounds very nice.
The distance doesn't matter.
It just really seems like she cares.
If she doesn't want a boyfriend right now.
Then wait for her.
I agree with ';dont choose do them both';visual c++ runtime error
Let the girls choose if they want you. You can not choose them. Choosing the best is always better for the girl to do.I need help choosing between two girls. Please help.?
Dont choose , do them both, (sorry I did not read the novel of a question)
Always go with the Veronica.
How could someone help you decide what makes you happy?? You can figure this out on your own. It's odd to ask others.
You go to church? I thought murdering the english language was a sin or something.
choose da 1 u like da mostttttt
be with the one that you dont want to see with anyone else- the one who makes you happy
PlEaSe HeLp Me %26lt;3
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>
I actually read the entire thing.
You should have added a works cited page since you used a lot of lyrics from songs.
Anyway, keep in touch with both girls, but move on with your life.
I think it will do you good to explore the outside world, maybe outside the walls of myspace or text messaging or little immature boy and girls.
I actually read that, ahhaa.
That was a novel.
But anyways,
I think Perla sounds very nice.
The distance doesn't matter.
It just really seems like she cares.
If she doesn't want a boyfriend right now.
Then wait for her.
I agree with ';dont choose do them both';
Problem with my mom, i need a parents advice or point of view...please please help me :(?
ok so i really need help with this...maybe some of you mothers out there can give me a point of view i can understand
me and my mom have always had a rocky relationship...probably since i was around 15 or so...i developed a mind of my own and rebelled...i never did anything outrageous, just the normal stuff....
well i moved out of my parents house when i was 18 because i didnt get along with them at all...i realized about a year after that, that i was not ready...i was too immature and i went back to live with my parents when they offered...
now im back there and have been there for a couple years now... (im 21)...ive grown up alot and learned alot of things the hard way...at the age of 21 i work full time and go to school full time so i dont pay my parents rent or anything...i feel like im ready to move out but im paying for my school outta my pocket so i have to wait til i graduate...
even thought im 21 i have a curfew...i understand thats my parents house and i respect their wishes and am home before my curfew unless i am staying with a friend...
i dont drink, i dont go out, i dont go to bars, and i always try to do the right thing...
my mom is still constantly questioning where i am, what im doing, what i spend my money on and telling me because i dont help around tthe house every day i dont appreciate living there and i dont respect them....im on the go from 6 am to midnight...then after i get home i have homework and studying to do...i dont mind helping once thats done but to be honest, even thought im 21, im EXHAUSTED alot...
this past weekend i stayed with a friend, and all week after i cam home my mom has avoided me like she was mad at something....
finally today i stayed out of school to catch up on some laundry and sleep and studying...she came in my room and went off on me about how i disrespected her by not coming home and helping around the house...i told her that i am an adult and i feel like if i want to stay at a friends house one weekend, i am entitled to that without wondering if she will be mad about some dishes...
we got in a HUGE fight, she ended up callin me an ';***hole'; which hurt me...she went into a tantrum and was screaming at the top of her lungs how i dont appreciate anything and how my life is SO easy and she clenched her fists and just screamed to the top of her lungs....
when i told her she needed to calm down she got offended and said for me not to tell her what to do...i ask her if we could talk about this wen she calmed down she said no u will listen now...we argued for probably 45 minutes with her screaming throwing a tantrum and me sittin there takin it feelin like im a 4 year old...
when she left the house she squealed tires and i called her and i said mom please stop driving like that you gonna reck
she said ';good maybe ill reck and die and i wont have to be in your life anymore'; and hung up
that really hurt me...i dont know how to solve this, or even if i can...we clash for a while, then we get along for a while, then we argue...i know she loves me but sometimes i feel like she doesnt like me at all...randomly for no reason she will just wont speak to me for a week and when im around shes slammin stuff around and slammin doors...
i am SOO tired of this...i love my mom and in no way am i trying to call her a bad mother...i am just very hurt by her sometimes and i dont know how to approach her or please her for that matter...i want my mom and i to have a good relationship...i want that more than anything...
i know i dont help around the house as much as i should but i am so tired most nights i just wana crash after i study
is there any suggestions on how i can approach my mom and effectively talk to her to where this can change...if not is there any suggestions on how i can cope with this until i graduate
this may sound petty or dumb but to me it is a huge deal...thats my mom, the only one i have and i want us to enjoy the time i have still living there...
please help meProblem with my mom, i need a parents advice or point of view...please please help me :(?
sorry hun, you can't change another person. she cares for you, she worries after you, she resents your growing up and not being under her control (actually because she cares about you-- it is hard to be a sane mom).
You can't explain things to her. She doesn't want to listen. And you won't change her. SO armed with that information, what can you do to remove yourself from the situation. The way I see it, there are two options:
1. move out. Or just bide your time until you do.
2. learn to not accept the gift of her anger. She's giving it to you and you're accepting it. You are allowing her words to enter you. You are doing this with good intentions, you want to make things better. but you want to do so by making HER see. By stopping her. The truth is, her feelings belong to her. Your feelings belong to you. The only person to work on is yourself.
I have learned that the only way I must react to my mother or any one else is to take a breath. Then another. And another. All I ever have to do is breathe. I do not have to react. I do not have to accept the gift of another person's anger. I do not have to mold myself into being the person she wants me to be.
You should do housework. No matter how tired your mom was when you were a baby (and she WAS tired in a way that no child-less person can understand) she still got up and ran to you when you needed her. She still washed your diapers and bibs. She deserves your help now, particularly since you eat her food and live under her roof.
As far as I'm concerned, adult or no, you do what is asked of you when you mooch off another person, parents included.
OR just move out. These are not simple choices. Welcome to adulthood.Problem with my mom, i need a parents advice or point of view...please please help me :(?
From what you wrote it honestly sounds like your mom is being unreasonable. So what if you crash at a friends place? Parents like your mother are too controlling.
It's time you moved out, sweetheart. Keep the full time job to support yourself and get an apartment. Cut back the school time so that you can take care of yourself and keep your own place clean. From time to time, take your Mom to dinner and a movie to stay in touch and so that she knows you love her. Don't say you can't move out. You can but something has to give and I think it should be your time in school. Cut back a bit and move out.
I'm curious about a few things.
What does your Dad think about your relationship with Mom? And were you his ';princess'; when you were a kid?
The Mother/Daughter dynamic (especially when the daughter is a teen) - that dynamic has it's stresses - just like the Father/Son. There are plenty of Dad's out there that think they %26amp; their sons need to take things to a fight for the son to finally ';assert'; himself as a man - BS if you ask me, but these weird dynamics are just that - weird.
On some very base level, your Mom may see you as ';competition';. Face it, most women get b^tchy around other women.
Did Mom get to go to college? Or did she get married/pregnant pretty young %26amp; so that part of her life never happened?
She could be jealous of your opportunities/life.
The curfew. It s*cks that you have one - at your age. But you have to look at it as the price you pay for living rent free - and able to pursue your education. As far as her interrogating you when/where you've been, I still go back to my question before of if she was married %26amp; pregnant young? Maybe she was a really wild teen and worries you could end up like her?
Her huge tantrum was unacceptible. For sure. Middle aged women get messed up by their hormones, just like young ones do. Is she going through menopause? Some women get nuts during that time.
I think I probably would have just walked out and left the house if my mom went ape-sh^t like yours did. There was absolutely no way you were going to be able to reason with her, let alone convince her of your point of view.
What is your Dad's policy on this curfew? Does he agree with her? Or can you enlist his aid - not so much as an obvious ally, but more of him gently nudging your Mom - behind the scenes, so to speak?
But you do need to have an adult discussion about the living arrangements. How you approach it? Good question. You Mom behaves unreasonably - I'd be afraid to go there...
She should be in a quiet, content mood. When you talk about it, talk about how You feel, use ';I'; alot and not ';you';. Making statements at her (';you never trust me';) will only put her on the defensive. Make it about how hard you're working, how worried you are about passing, etc. and ask what it is you've done to cause her to lose trust.
Good luck.
Make a schedule to fit things in with your life.
Your mom has no respect for you it seems.
If she yells at you again, just leave for the day and come back at night or if you leave at night, then come back the next day.
Tell your mom how you feel and if she interupts you just sit there and ignore her. When she's done talking start talking again.
me and my mom have always had a rocky relationship...probably since i was around 15 or so...i developed a mind of my own and rebelled...i never did anything outrageous, just the normal stuff....
well i moved out of my parents house when i was 18 because i didnt get along with them at all...i realized about a year after that, that i was not ready...i was too immature and i went back to live with my parents when they offered...
now im back there and have been there for a couple years now... (im 21)...ive grown up alot and learned alot of things the hard way...at the age of 21 i work full time and go to school full time so i dont pay my parents rent or anything...i feel like im ready to move out but im paying for my school outta my pocket so i have to wait til i graduate...
even thought im 21 i have a curfew...i understand thats my parents house and i respect their wishes and am home before my curfew unless i am staying with a friend...
i dont drink, i dont go out, i dont go to bars, and i always try to do the right thing...
my mom is still constantly questioning where i am, what im doing, what i spend my money on and telling me because i dont help around tthe house every day i dont appreciate living there and i dont respect them....im on the go from 6 am to midnight...then after i get home i have homework and studying to do...i dont mind helping once thats done but to be honest, even thought im 21, im EXHAUSTED alot...
this past weekend i stayed with a friend, and all week after i cam home my mom has avoided me like she was mad at something....
finally today i stayed out of school to catch up on some laundry and sleep and studying...she came in my room and went off on me about how i disrespected her by not coming home and helping around the house...i told her that i am an adult and i feel like if i want to stay at a friends house one weekend, i am entitled to that without wondering if she will be mad about some dishes...
we got in a HUGE fight, she ended up callin me an ';***hole'; which hurt me...she went into a tantrum and was screaming at the top of her lungs how i dont appreciate anything and how my life is SO easy and she clenched her fists and just screamed to the top of her lungs....
when i told her she needed to calm down she got offended and said for me not to tell her what to do...i ask her if we could talk about this wen she calmed down she said no u will listen now...we argued for probably 45 minutes with her screaming throwing a tantrum and me sittin there takin it feelin like im a 4 year old...
when she left the house she squealed tires and i called her and i said mom please stop driving like that you gonna reck
she said ';good maybe ill reck and die and i wont have to be in your life anymore'; and hung up
that really hurt me...i dont know how to solve this, or even if i can...we clash for a while, then we get along for a while, then we argue...i know she loves me but sometimes i feel like she doesnt like me at all...randomly for no reason she will just wont speak to me for a week and when im around shes slammin stuff around and slammin doors...
i am SOO tired of this...i love my mom and in no way am i trying to call her a bad mother...i am just very hurt by her sometimes and i dont know how to approach her or please her for that matter...i want my mom and i to have a good relationship...i want that more than anything...
i know i dont help around the house as much as i should but i am so tired most nights i just wana crash after i study
is there any suggestions on how i can approach my mom and effectively talk to her to where this can change...if not is there any suggestions on how i can cope with this until i graduate
this may sound petty or dumb but to me it is a huge deal...thats my mom, the only one i have and i want us to enjoy the time i have still living there...
please help meProblem with my mom, i need a parents advice or point of view...please please help me :(?
sorry hun, you can't change another person. she cares for you, she worries after you, she resents your growing up and not being under her control (actually because she cares about you-- it is hard to be a sane mom).
You can't explain things to her. She doesn't want to listen. And you won't change her. SO armed with that information, what can you do to remove yourself from the situation. The way I see it, there are two options:
1. move out. Or just bide your time until you do.
2. learn to not accept the gift of her anger. She's giving it to you and you're accepting it. You are allowing her words to enter you. You are doing this with good intentions, you want to make things better. but you want to do so by making HER see. By stopping her. The truth is, her feelings belong to her. Your feelings belong to you. The only person to work on is yourself.
I have learned that the only way I must react to my mother or any one else is to take a breath. Then another. And another. All I ever have to do is breathe. I do not have to react. I do not have to accept the gift of another person's anger. I do not have to mold myself into being the person she wants me to be.
You should do housework. No matter how tired your mom was when you were a baby (and she WAS tired in a way that no child-less person can understand) she still got up and ran to you when you needed her. She still washed your diapers and bibs. She deserves your help now, particularly since you eat her food and live under her roof.
As far as I'm concerned, adult or no, you do what is asked of you when you mooch off another person, parents included.
OR just move out. These are not simple choices. Welcome to adulthood.Problem with my mom, i need a parents advice or point of view...please please help me :(?
From what you wrote it honestly sounds like your mom is being unreasonable. So what if you crash at a friends place? Parents like your mother are too controlling.
It's time you moved out, sweetheart. Keep the full time job to support yourself and get an apartment. Cut back the school time so that you can take care of yourself and keep your own place clean. From time to time, take your Mom to dinner and a movie to stay in touch and so that she knows you love her. Don't say you can't move out. You can but something has to give and I think it should be your time in school. Cut back a bit and move out.
I'm curious about a few things.
What does your Dad think about your relationship with Mom? And were you his ';princess'; when you were a kid?
The Mother/Daughter dynamic (especially when the daughter is a teen) - that dynamic has it's stresses - just like the Father/Son. There are plenty of Dad's out there that think they %26amp; their sons need to take things to a fight for the son to finally ';assert'; himself as a man - BS if you ask me, but these weird dynamics are just that - weird.
On some very base level, your Mom may see you as ';competition';. Face it, most women get b^tchy around other women.
Did Mom get to go to college? Or did she get married/pregnant pretty young %26amp; so that part of her life never happened?
She could be jealous of your opportunities/life.
The curfew. It s*cks that you have one - at your age. But you have to look at it as the price you pay for living rent free - and able to pursue your education. As far as her interrogating you when/where you've been, I still go back to my question before of if she was married %26amp; pregnant young? Maybe she was a really wild teen and worries you could end up like her?
Her huge tantrum was unacceptible. For sure. Middle aged women get messed up by their hormones, just like young ones do. Is she going through menopause? Some women get nuts during that time.
I think I probably would have just walked out and left the house if my mom went ape-sh^t like yours did. There was absolutely no way you were going to be able to reason with her, let alone convince her of your point of view.
What is your Dad's policy on this curfew? Does he agree with her? Or can you enlist his aid - not so much as an obvious ally, but more of him gently nudging your Mom - behind the scenes, so to speak?
But you do need to have an adult discussion about the living arrangements. How you approach it? Good question. You Mom behaves unreasonably - I'd be afraid to go there...
She should be in a quiet, content mood. When you talk about it, talk about how You feel, use ';I'; alot and not ';you';. Making statements at her (';you never trust me';) will only put her on the defensive. Make it about how hard you're working, how worried you are about passing, etc. and ask what it is you've done to cause her to lose trust.
Good luck.
Make a schedule to fit things in with your life.
Your mom has no respect for you it seems.
If she yells at you again, just leave for the day and come back at night or if you leave at night, then come back the next day.
Tell your mom how you feel and if she interupts you just sit there and ignore her. When she's done talking start talking again.
I have girl troubles?please help???
Okay so i have a friend that is a girl we have lots of the same interest and stuff, which is why im so confused.i totally thought she liked me we would text all night like untill 5AM...we would talk on the phone.weve known each other for about 4 months.we hung out and decided we would be pretend bf/gf just to like see what our friends would say...people kept asking us and were like were just playin so we were in the car on the way home and she moved to the far left and me on the right knowing that i was gnna make a REAL move if she sat in the middle....then she moved to the middle....ive never had a gf or did this before not because i cant get one just cause i never liked anyone and people like me before they even know me.i thought this girl actually liked me cause she actually knew me.so about 10 minutes later were holding hands her head on my shoulder. i pick up her hand and kiss it.then she giggled it didnt seem nervous but rather i thought she liked it so then im like well can i kiss you on your head and she is like mhhhmm a little while later im like cheek? and she is like yes then i do that a few times and then lips?once again approval. her head is on my shoulder pretty much the rest of the way home..so after a while im like soo does this mean we can be bf/gf for real?and she is like idk you havnt asked me out yet?so then i do and she is like let me think..honestly right there i knew it was done and over no was prlly the answer.the next day i was out all day at a theme park and couldnt get her off my mind.i finally got a myspace message alert of the way home saying i received a message from her.so i get home and open it.all i can see is the words sticking out sorry but i dont feel the same.so i sat there thinking for about an hour or two wow what happened?it didnt make any sense to me.the worst part of that message was that she said she spent all night and all day crying over how to tell me.i wrote two messages out 1 being the polite one saying sorry for kissing you your write we should hang out more.then another one saying that i didnt like her that much anyway and going out for an asexual cause(like going out but not having any feelings)i sent the second one being a stupid boy:[ after a while she replied and was really mad saying f*** it and stuff like that.then she was like i dont wnna be friends anymore.that hurt i could deal with her not liking me like i said lots of girls like me i jst never give thm a chance.but whn she said she didnt wanna be friends it hurt bad.so any one know why she is mad at me?shouldnt i be the one mad? im not at all...did she expect me to talk about how amazing she was and how i like her alot??tht wouldve been the truth but then it would make me sound weird?so i kept messaging her saying im sorry for thinking of an excuss and not admitting i like her.finally she is like fine its not gonna be the same untill you build my trust back up so im messaging her again and it says she read the message..yet no reply?so after a few days im like um hello eh no replys...im like are u taking my way out of things?which is whn u ignore people who like you.she replys and says no dont flatter yourself like twice. thn she said i need some time alone..im really confused why does she need time?no offense to her but i made up excuss i was EMBARRASSED she was the girl who told me you should talk about your feelings and stuff and where does it get me?if she didnt say that i prlly wouldve never kissed her or even touched her at all.so i really have no idea what to do..i just dont get it.is all of this my fault?because of what i said??what should i do?i dont want her to forget me?so what do you guys think of this??i still like her but im willing to sacrafice those feelings to become friends?it makes no sense to me?sooo idkplease help i want this girl as a friend.or i maybe its i need this girl as a friend.and why did she keep her head on me goshhh that hurts.........
Thanks =)I have girl troubles?please help???
hey, i was that 'girl' once.what happened was, after all that affection towards each other. the very next day; i back out. i apologised to him saying that i didnt mean it to happened.ohh well; here goes.
after all that kissing and stuffs.i realised that i just cant be in a relationship with him now.maybe in the future .apart from that its because i cant forget my ex.
all that happen cause- she wanted love from you.she wants to feel it (love) all over again.
why it happen - she realises her mistake that she's giving you a too high hope and that she doesnt want to back out but stay as friends only.
what you should do? - APOLOGISE quickly..
cause you doesnt meant what you said to her right? please say that you didnt meant what you said,confess your true feelings towards her.ask her why is she suddenly backing out.and, you will only respect her decision if she wanna be only friends cause you dont wanna lose her.
do not force her to answer.give her time. make her feel comfortable with you again.if possible,meet her up gave her a bouquet of flowers or something.haha.sometimes you've gotta score points!do not be iritating pls by keep texting her saying how sorry you were.
play it cool man,chill. be very PATIENCE!..
your time is critical.and all the best to you.
ps:make her come back to where she belongs again - your heartI have girl troubles?please help???
Ok.
okay here's something you need to know about girls..
they love attention and affection, it doesn't matter if they like you or not. When you flirt with them, hug them, kiss them or anything of the sort they like it because it makes them feel pretty or loved.
But I would say drop her altogether if she is going to use you like that.
She said she needs time because she doesn't WANT to explain that she used you to boast her self-esteem.
She will never forget you, trust me, being a girl myself, you just don't forget people that you have been in relationships with.
Move on, you sound young. You seem like a smart guy.
Thanks =)I have girl troubles?please help???
hey, i was that 'girl' once.what happened was, after all that affection towards each other. the very next day; i back out. i apologised to him saying that i didnt mean it to happened.ohh well; here goes.
after all that kissing and stuffs.i realised that i just cant be in a relationship with him now.maybe in the future .apart from that its because i cant forget my ex.
all that happen cause- she wanted love from you.she wants to feel it (love) all over again.
why it happen - she realises her mistake that she's giving you a too high hope and that she doesnt want to back out but stay as friends only.
what you should do? - APOLOGISE quickly..
cause you doesnt meant what you said to her right? please say that you didnt meant what you said,confess your true feelings towards her.ask her why is she suddenly backing out.and, you will only respect her decision if she wanna be only friends cause you dont wanna lose her.
do not force her to answer.give her time. make her feel comfortable with you again.if possible,meet her up gave her a bouquet of flowers or something.haha.sometimes you've gotta score points!do not be iritating pls by keep texting her saying how sorry you were.
play it cool man,chill. be very PATIENCE!..
your time is critical.and all the best to you.
ps:make her come back to where she belongs again - your heartI have girl troubles?please help???
Ok.
okay here's something you need to know about girls..
they love attention and affection, it doesn't matter if they like you or not. When you flirt with them, hug them, kiss them or anything of the sort they like it because it makes them feel pretty or loved.
But I would say drop her altogether if she is going to use you like that.
She said she needs time because she doesn't WANT to explain that she used you to boast her self-esteem.
She will never forget you, trust me, being a girl myself, you just don't forget people that you have been in relationships with.
Move on, you sound young. You seem like a smart guy.
Picking bf over me (i need advice asap)?
i really dont know what i did.. but it all happened soo fast,my friend has ';boyfriend'; issues and she always br%26lt;a%26gt;gs about him.. too me.. okay even though i wanna tell her i dont wanna hear it because she picks him over me alot and why should i care if hes being an *** but i dont i listen like a good friend.soo we are in the mall when she tells me her boyfriend said:
';he doesnt feel like he wants to share her with me';.im telling her.. how is it sharing, when.1.He knows me and her dont go to the same school anymore 2. he lives next too her and i dont,3.he knows we barely see each other but were still bestfriends.plus they both know that im leaving next year from vegas to chicago and im not coming back.. yet she still tends to think this is a joke and picks her bf over me constantly.. and today i was telling her well, if he's going to say that(which i dont know how its sharing cause this isnt no contest)
then this guy clearly has issues and he's a control freak torwards her :
he wont let her do certain things.. they have to be together 24hrs.. she has to hang out with him and his friends i can only hang out with her on weekeneds.. {stuff like that} and im like you know what never mind it doesnt matter,cause lets just make the time that we spend together usefull before next year.. this girl takes everything seriously
she cant take a joke and she just asumes alot !!! hah but we play around alot.. and it got to the point where she was talking about me and my guy.. like alot.. but i dont care cause its a joke- a jokes a joke... and i said something about her and her boyfriend.. and i was just playin like ill even tell you what i said i literally said :ima need you and julio to calm down and i was laughing she got serious and started talking about how ( i know sometime in my life that im ganna settle down so i cant talk) and im like wtf-where the hell did that come from so i tell her, hey well were young and your already talking about settling down when dude were sixteen were both ganna be graduating when were seventeen im not tryna settle down im going through college and all this moving process.. plus it that is moving way too fast and here she is talking about moving with him and stuff then she started talking about how me and my guy... and im like where is this coming from,me and him are not serious, were considered still ';young';-';kids';-or ';young-adults'; and im not trying to like have an intense serious relationship with bf after bf after bfs thats not my life, i cant do that i can be happy with a light relationship with a guy until i move forward into my own life ..and of course the big, ';well it sounds like your talking about me,and my relationships'; really thats a big-no-it-wasn't.. and it REALLY wasnt directed too her.. soo im like what is the problem? what are you talking about? all of a sudden were playing around and she gets all serious and mad at me for no reason i dont seem to know what i did, and she yelled at me and said what i said was directed too her and were walking home at the time so she goes to the other cross walk and walks on the other side and we dont speak after that..Picking bf over me (i need advice asap)?
Well Just call him in a matter of days like come try visting him.
';he doesnt feel like he wants to share her with me';.im telling her.. how is it sharing, when.1.He knows me and her dont go to the same school anymore 2. he lives next too her and i dont,3.he knows we barely see each other but were still bestfriends.plus they both know that im leaving next year from vegas to chicago and im not coming back.. yet she still tends to think this is a joke and picks her bf over me constantly.. and today i was telling her well, if he's going to say that(which i dont know how its sharing cause this isnt no contest)
then this guy clearly has issues and he's a control freak torwards her :
he wont let her do certain things.. they have to be together 24hrs.. she has to hang out with him and his friends i can only hang out with her on weekeneds.. {stuff like that} and im like you know what never mind it doesnt matter,cause lets just make the time that we spend together usefull before next year.. this girl takes everything seriously
she cant take a joke and she just asumes alot !!! hah but we play around alot.. and it got to the point where she was talking about me and my guy.. like alot.. but i dont care cause its a joke- a jokes a joke... and i said something about her and her boyfriend.. and i was just playin like ill even tell you what i said i literally said :ima need you and julio to calm down and i was laughing she got serious and started talking about how ( i know sometime in my life that im ganna settle down so i cant talk) and im like wtf-where the hell did that come from so i tell her, hey well were young and your already talking about settling down when dude were sixteen were both ganna be graduating when were seventeen im not tryna settle down im going through college and all this moving process.. plus it that is moving way too fast and here she is talking about moving with him and stuff then she started talking about how me and my guy... and im like where is this coming from,me and him are not serious, were considered still ';young';-';kids';-or ';young-adults'; and im not trying to like have an intense serious relationship with bf after bf after bfs thats not my life, i cant do that i can be happy with a light relationship with a guy until i move forward into my own life ..and of course the big, ';well it sounds like your talking about me,and my relationships'; really thats a big-no-it-wasn't.. and it REALLY wasnt directed too her.. soo im like what is the problem? what are you talking about? all of a sudden were playing around and she gets all serious and mad at me for no reason i dont seem to know what i did, and she yelled at me and said what i said was directed too her and were walking home at the time so she goes to the other cross walk and walks on the other side and we dont speak after that..Picking bf over me (i need advice asap)?
Well Just call him in a matter of days like come try visting him.
What really makes a guy come back?
So my ex and I broke up two months ago. He broke up with me, and then for the 1st following month he would contact me. At first it was a week, and then the contacts became closer… eventually it was almost everyday. He would also continue to tell me he had some of my stuff %26amp; drop it off... he also bought me a present...He would only text me friendly things, asking how school and work was, but never said I miss you or anything. For me, it became painful to hear from him but he wouldn’t want to see me (I tried to hang out with him once and he said no) or say anything worth meaning.
So I was feeling hopeless and really confused and so I wrote him a letter telling him that for me, its all or nothing. I told him he was a great guy and that I care about him, but being his “friend” was painful because I still was in love with him, and I needed to respect myself and move on. I mentioned that if he wanted to work things out to let me know, otherwise take care.
So two days went by and he texted me saying that my letter was still on his mind. But that’s all it said, and I stuck to my guy and didn’t respond. Then after that text two weeks went by and he supposedly “accidently” texted me. It said “um, how about wood and tap?” which is a restaurant. Unfortunately, I had left my phone at home that day by accident, so I got it 4 hrs later after working. So I wrote back saying “was that meant for me?” and he wrote back his friends name and I just replied well have fun then. Then he told me he had some of my mail (we used to live together) and he said that he could either send it to me via mail or drop it off. So I texted him my address %26amp; said “or u can drop it off” and then he put “I knew you would want your mail, lol”.
That was the last time I talked to him and it was about a week %26amp; ? ago. I personally don’t believe he texted me by accident… I just find it almost too ironic that it was ME he accidently texted and the contents of the text. And well, I still haven’t gotten my mail.
Do you think by me not talking to him, he’s missing me?
What makes a boy regret breaking up and want to come back?
Some say no contact is the best… but its not working? Or does it just take longer?
Some say being friends is the best… well I tried that for a month, and I was feeling hurt and not getting anywhere…
Any suggestions or feedback? On my situation or anything relating?
ThanksWhat really makes a guy come back?
He will come back if he really loves you you don't have to do anythingWhat really makes a guy come back?
he'll come back if you keep making him come if you know what i mean, ;). if not, maybe i can help you out ;)
he's despite and is trying to use you agian
DONT LIT HIM GIRL
HE CAN SAY ANYTHING TO GET YOU BACK BUT SAY
NONONONO!!!!
Well all i can say it
If you love something, let it free
if it comes back it always was
and if it doesnt it never was
They relize what they had. if he hasent said any thing like along them lines he might be over you or might have not been there to begin with.
did he hang out with you with his friends if not he was just using you. that the golden rule if a guy doesnt take you to his friends and ';show you off'; hes prolly using you
to get a guy back have a honest friend say the 3 worst things about you and try to change them.
guys no mater what they say they like a pretty girl.
and if you can get into video games girls who can play halo are better than ones who are really good looking :: i am not joking about that::
look: if he dropped you once, why the HELL would he want you back? you'll think i'm being mean, but honestly you females really have a hard time grasping when to move the hell on. put yourself in his position. if you dumped a guy, and he kept trying to get you back via implementing lame *** tactics to re-attract you to him, you'd call him a stalker, shrug him off, and most likely laugh in his face. get the net! let it go! instead of chasing some boy around, why don't you put that wasted energy towards some thing productive. school? work? building your intellect? friends? family? you know, sh!t that actually MATTERS. but alas, i'm certain any advice that doesn't say ';CHASE AND FIGHT FOR HIM UNTIL YOU GET HIM BACK GURL'; will just be ignored. whatever. i keep forgetting women are imperviouss to logic.
He clearly has mixed feelings. (Or to put it less nicely, he wants the best of both worlds.)
';So two days went by and he texted me saying that my letter was still on his mind.'; He's playing with you.
You can do much better, and deserve much better, than that.
Dump him once and for all, and never look back.
Move on......he sounds immature. I have heard that some people can remain friends with their ex's, but I am so not among them. It sounds like u aren't either. I believe you should give a guy 2 chances: his first and his last. Your boy has used up both of his. Plan a mani-pedi with your best gal-pal then go clubbing %26amp; have some fun.
Also, go on line %26amp; do a change of address with USPS.
I'm sure he is missing having a companion. Sorry but it may not be you but the idea of you. He will continue to send mixed messages until you either get back together or one of you moves on. No contact can be good. Friends doesn't work well right away give it some time before you try that.
Hi, what really affecting both of u is love.As per your bf ,is just pretending as if he doesn't love u any more.He is been disturbed about your former activities,that are still roll in his memory.bot u need to be more careful in relating with him.i.e u should open an eagle eye toward the relationship ,because l can envisage that u love him more he does.Anyway, l wish u happy relationship,good luck
Being friends won't bring him back...will make you too familiar. Plus, he'll see your ';neediness,'; which may turn him off. He may simply not be into you for whatever reason, and that may be the hardest thing to admit. But I would NOT come running every time he calls. Move on to someone who knows they want you. That way you're living your life, not putting it on hold for someone who doesn't want you. Why like someone who doesn't want you? Having self respect and self-love may help prevent this in the future...
i think he wants u bak so much tht he is afraid since u r not talking 2 him he is scared to talk 2 u and ask u bak out.
he probably regrets breaking up with you because he has been texting you and he said the letter has been running through his head. if you haven't gotten the mail yet then he's probably too chicken to give it you, try asking him why he hasn't given it to you?
Cheryl,
Sometimes a guy makes the big mistake by not knowing what he's got until its gone, and then regrets it later. However, the way it sounds this guy may have cared about you in the past, but he clearly doesn't know what he wants and doesn't seem that into you now. You might have feelings for him, but by the way he's acting you need to let him go before he hurts you even more. This includes trying to stay ';friends'; which is going to be too painful at this point. Playing these kinds of games just results in mental anguish. Move on and let him go. I think the whole text messaging is silly and immature as well. Hang in there - you'll find Mr. Right eventually, and that's someone who knows what they want and knows beyond doubt that they really care for you and are not afraid to show it. You'll be the a better person in the end.
To me it sounds like he wants back, but do you want him back.
So I was feeling hopeless and really confused and so I wrote him a letter telling him that for me, its all or nothing. I told him he was a great guy and that I care about him, but being his “friend” was painful because I still was in love with him, and I needed to respect myself and move on. I mentioned that if he wanted to work things out to let me know, otherwise take care.
So two days went by and he texted me saying that my letter was still on his mind. But that’s all it said, and I stuck to my guy and didn’t respond. Then after that text two weeks went by and he supposedly “accidently” texted me. It said “um, how about wood and tap?” which is a restaurant. Unfortunately, I had left my phone at home that day by accident, so I got it 4 hrs later after working. So I wrote back saying “was that meant for me?” and he wrote back his friends name and I just replied well have fun then. Then he told me he had some of my mail (we used to live together) and he said that he could either send it to me via mail or drop it off. So I texted him my address %26amp; said “or u can drop it off” and then he put “I knew you would want your mail, lol”.
That was the last time I talked to him and it was about a week %26amp; ? ago. I personally don’t believe he texted me by accident… I just find it almost too ironic that it was ME he accidently texted and the contents of the text. And well, I still haven’t gotten my mail.
Do you think by me not talking to him, he’s missing me?
What makes a boy regret breaking up and want to come back?
Some say no contact is the best… but its not working? Or does it just take longer?
Some say being friends is the best… well I tried that for a month, and I was feeling hurt and not getting anywhere…
Any suggestions or feedback? On my situation or anything relating?
ThanksWhat really makes a guy come back?
He will come back if he really loves you you don't have to do anythingWhat really makes a guy come back?
he'll come back if you keep making him come if you know what i mean, ;). if not, maybe i can help you out ;)
he's despite and is trying to use you agian
DONT LIT HIM GIRL
HE CAN SAY ANYTHING TO GET YOU BACK BUT SAY
NONONONO!!!!
Well all i can say it
If you love something, let it free
if it comes back it always was
and if it doesnt it never was
They relize what they had. if he hasent said any thing like along them lines he might be over you or might have not been there to begin with.
did he hang out with you with his friends if not he was just using you. that the golden rule if a guy doesnt take you to his friends and ';show you off'; hes prolly using you
to get a guy back have a honest friend say the 3 worst things about you and try to change them.
guys no mater what they say they like a pretty girl.
and if you can get into video games girls who can play halo are better than ones who are really good looking :: i am not joking about that::
look: if he dropped you once, why the HELL would he want you back? you'll think i'm being mean, but honestly you females really have a hard time grasping when to move the hell on. put yourself in his position. if you dumped a guy, and he kept trying to get you back via implementing lame *** tactics to re-attract you to him, you'd call him a stalker, shrug him off, and most likely laugh in his face. get the net! let it go! instead of chasing some boy around, why don't you put that wasted energy towards some thing productive. school? work? building your intellect? friends? family? you know, sh!t that actually MATTERS. but alas, i'm certain any advice that doesn't say ';CHASE AND FIGHT FOR HIM UNTIL YOU GET HIM BACK GURL'; will just be ignored. whatever. i keep forgetting women are imperviouss to logic.
He clearly has mixed feelings. (Or to put it less nicely, he wants the best of both worlds.)
';So two days went by and he texted me saying that my letter was still on his mind.'; He's playing with you.
You can do much better, and deserve much better, than that.
Dump him once and for all, and never look back.
Move on......he sounds immature. I have heard that some people can remain friends with their ex's, but I am so not among them. It sounds like u aren't either. I believe you should give a guy 2 chances: his first and his last. Your boy has used up both of his. Plan a mani-pedi with your best gal-pal then go clubbing %26amp; have some fun.
Also, go on line %26amp; do a change of address with USPS.
I'm sure he is missing having a companion. Sorry but it may not be you but the idea of you. He will continue to send mixed messages until you either get back together or one of you moves on. No contact can be good. Friends doesn't work well right away give it some time before you try that.
Hi, what really affecting both of u is love.As per your bf ,is just pretending as if he doesn't love u any more.He is been disturbed about your former activities,that are still roll in his memory.bot u need to be more careful in relating with him.i.e u should open an eagle eye toward the relationship ,because l can envisage that u love him more he does.Anyway, l wish u happy relationship,good luck
Being friends won't bring him back...will make you too familiar. Plus, he'll see your ';neediness,'; which may turn him off. He may simply not be into you for whatever reason, and that may be the hardest thing to admit. But I would NOT come running every time he calls. Move on to someone who knows they want you. That way you're living your life, not putting it on hold for someone who doesn't want you. Why like someone who doesn't want you? Having self respect and self-love may help prevent this in the future...
i think he wants u bak so much tht he is afraid since u r not talking 2 him he is scared to talk 2 u and ask u bak out.
he probably regrets breaking up with you because he has been texting you and he said the letter has been running through his head. if you haven't gotten the mail yet then he's probably too chicken to give it you, try asking him why he hasn't given it to you?
Cheryl,
Sometimes a guy makes the big mistake by not knowing what he's got until its gone, and then regrets it later. However, the way it sounds this guy may have cared about you in the past, but he clearly doesn't know what he wants and doesn't seem that into you now. You might have feelings for him, but by the way he's acting you need to let him go before he hurts you even more. This includes trying to stay ';friends'; which is going to be too painful at this point. Playing these kinds of games just results in mental anguish. Move on and let him go. I think the whole text messaging is silly and immature as well. Hang in there - you'll find Mr. Right eventually, and that's someone who knows what they want and knows beyond doubt that they really care for you and are not afraid to show it. You'll be the a better person in the end.
To me it sounds like he wants back, but do you want him back.
Should i Just give up?
So theres this guy that i like he makes
me feel all mushy and gushy inside like whenever
he texts me i have a bigg-o smile on my face and everyone
tells me he likes me but hes soo shy but sometimes
i think he doesnt like me. why? because like
i try to flirt with him he just goes : ) i mean its like wtf?
i like to feel special and stuff and the only cute thing he has told
me your pretty and more. i mean wth. ugghh well yea anyway
he doesnt even make a move but still all his friends are like
woahh dude he really likes you your always on his mind its you and skating.
Im like he sure doesnt show it and they tell me hes shy.
Thats dumb if a guy really likes a girl like for real woulnt they make a move like right away? well yeaa. i like him but then its like uggghh.
well yea i think he only ';likes'; me because he feels forced too!
Well i told my friend that he was cute and ever since then hes all of a sudden likes me. i mean yea i know thats how things happen but i think hes forced to liking me so i dont know to continue just there or to move on.?
Like today i hung out with him but he just asks me questions and there akward silence so i make up excuses and leave. I reallt dont know what to do. He expects me to talk to him and stuff I think a guy should do that but hes soo cute but yeaa. tell me what you think yea.Should i Just give up?
i think that hes just shy. He's afraid of getting rejected. He clearly really likes you. But you need to stop feeling so angry that hes shy, when youre a shy person you dont know what to do and are alwys thinking of what to say,how to say it,what happens if i say it wrong and make myself sound stupid. So when he was hanging out with you he was asking you questions to get to know you a bit more, and since hes shy of course theres going to be some awkward pauses. I think you shuld have just stayed with him and try to do something fun. And the guy doesn't always have to be the one to make the first move. The girl can do this too. If you really like the guy then go up to him and start talking to him, get to know him more and eventually ask him out. Just give him a chance and stop being so hard on him.
-and im sorry if it sounds like im nagging you :\Should i Just give up?
yes give up
never give up on a thing that you cant live a day without
That's really funny! I was gonna say the same thing the 2 answerer said! I'm in love with that saying and that's how I've gotten through alot of stuff that's been happening to me.
Never give up on something or someone you can't live a day without.
Just have a friend or someone ask him what he thinks of u!
Now me? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
Dont give up DONT!!!!
help help help !!!!
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just keep hanging out with him, make him more comfortable around u mabye hes waiting for u to open up if u know what i mean
hope i helped!:D
First of all, I don't think you completely understand guys, yes, he may be shy, but that by no means implies he feels forced to like you, I'm a shy guy, and I didn't know that my current girlfriend liked me until AFTER the info that I liked her spilled out and everyone knew! You should talk to him, maybe you need to ask him out, there are guys out there who are bad at talking to girls, make it easier for him!african american hair email
me feel all mushy and gushy inside like whenever
he texts me i have a bigg-o smile on my face and everyone
tells me he likes me but hes soo shy but sometimes
i think he doesnt like me. why? because like
i try to flirt with him he just goes : ) i mean its like wtf?
i like to feel special and stuff and the only cute thing he has told
me your pretty and more. i mean wth. ugghh well yea anyway
he doesnt even make a move but still all his friends are like
woahh dude he really likes you your always on his mind its you and skating.
Im like he sure doesnt show it and they tell me hes shy.
Thats dumb if a guy really likes a girl like for real woulnt they make a move like right away? well yeaa. i like him but then its like uggghh.
well yea i think he only ';likes'; me because he feels forced too!
Well i told my friend that he was cute and ever since then hes all of a sudden likes me. i mean yea i know thats how things happen but i think hes forced to liking me so i dont know to continue just there or to move on.?
Like today i hung out with him but he just asks me questions and there akward silence so i make up excuses and leave. I reallt dont know what to do. He expects me to talk to him and stuff I think a guy should do that but hes soo cute but yeaa. tell me what you think yea.Should i Just give up?
i think that hes just shy. He's afraid of getting rejected. He clearly really likes you. But you need to stop feeling so angry that hes shy, when youre a shy person you dont know what to do and are alwys thinking of what to say,how to say it,what happens if i say it wrong and make myself sound stupid. So when he was hanging out with you he was asking you questions to get to know you a bit more, and since hes shy of course theres going to be some awkward pauses. I think you shuld have just stayed with him and try to do something fun. And the guy doesn't always have to be the one to make the first move. The girl can do this too. If you really like the guy then go up to him and start talking to him, get to know him more and eventually ask him out. Just give him a chance and stop being so hard on him.
-and im sorry if it sounds like im nagging you :\Should i Just give up?
yes give up
never give up on a thing that you cant live a day without
That's really funny! I was gonna say the same thing the 2 answerer said! I'm in love with that saying and that's how I've gotten through alot of stuff that's been happening to me.
Never give up on something or someone you can't live a day without.
Just have a friend or someone ask him what he thinks of u!
Now me? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
Dont give up DONT!!!!
help help help !!!!
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
just keep hanging out with him, make him more comfortable around u mabye hes waiting for u to open up if u know what i mean
hope i helped!:D
First of all, I don't think you completely understand guys, yes, he may be shy, but that by no means implies he feels forced to like you, I'm a shy guy, and I didn't know that my current girlfriend liked me until AFTER the info that I liked her spilled out and everyone knew! You should talk to him, maybe you need to ask him out, there are guys out there who are bad at talking to girls, make it easier for him!
I need a male opinion.?
I'm curious about the opinions of other people. Im interested to see on how other people would make a judgement to this experience. (Btw...this is during 8th grade... %26gt;.%26gt;) (So this is 2 and 1/2 years ago)
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So, i meet this guy in History class, he sits right behind me. He's friendy, he's nice, and he's cute right? He'll smile sweetly and ask for a pencil, a paper, anything small. ';What'd you get for number 13?'; I mean, i like that he's doing it and all...so i keep my interest.
I talk to him more often, he and I would get along very well and walk with each other two our two classes.
We get close and my group of friends (Who are mostly girls btw), poke fun and say we almost look like a couple, as we dont seem to lose sight of each other. He'll just laugh it off, and get all close and say ';Yeahhhhh...'; jokingly.
I mean, im a bit shy about it, but i don't completely shy away from everything he does and what not. He'll do little things to, even if people aren't watching...he'll tap my right shoulder and appear on my left, and wink and smile. He'll put his hands on my shoulders, and massage them (A calming down thing) and mess around as he massages closer and closer off my shoulders to my chest. He'll jokingly say, ';Yeah, me and him had a GREAT time last night';. You know, provocatives and fun stuff. I was getting the idea he was beginning to return my feelings...
mind you, this is on a couple month progression...im still moving on. We went to our 8th grade field trip and hang out all day at the beach, and make comments to some of my friends while went to get changed back into our normal clothes ';you're going to help me pull up the zipper and EVERYTHING';.
i mean, was he just being fun and just going along with it? Later on, i'd outed to him...and it turns out he didnt feel that way...
but what would be your judgement? (Mind you, he still made small impressions on girls like, 'oh, she's hot' or something. but not TOO often)
not to mention he was also christian, but he was a nice guy, and when i out-ed to him, he told me ';I feel things for you. but more of a brother way, and not like a boyfriend would. but im willing to support you and your lifestyle';I need a male opinion.?
It's hard to say.
On one hand my gaydar was beeping at the massages and the zipper statement.
But again, maybe he is just a flirty, affectionate, brother-type guy.
So he said he *would* support you and your lifestyle? For a Christian that is a huge and wonderful thing he said to you.
Unless she says otherwise, you have to take him at his word.
But does he still give massages? I hope so. Ask him for one. And bask in the warm presence of a wonderful good friend.
Apparently he is not bf material. But until your bf shows up, it's great to have attractive and affectionate, supportive buddies.I need a male opinion.?
Same thing happened to me except without the christianity thing, I think sometimes guys go through phases of being more or less asexual. They might not seem interested in girls but it doesn't mean they are gay. He must just be a flirty person then? Ya think? My friend used to make passes at me all the time, turns out hes straight though. It's pretty easy to get the wrong opinion when you are hoping. I would have thought he was interested. I liked to story =)
Sometimes when we want something really badly, we tend to only see what we want and that turns out to be far from the reality of the matter.
I can definitely say I've been there and done that, and I think it's better to lower your expectations so you don't get hurt as much in the end.
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So, i meet this guy in History class, he sits right behind me. He's friendy, he's nice, and he's cute right? He'll smile sweetly and ask for a pencil, a paper, anything small. ';What'd you get for number 13?'; I mean, i like that he's doing it and all...so i keep my interest.
I talk to him more often, he and I would get along very well and walk with each other two our two classes.
We get close and my group of friends (Who are mostly girls btw), poke fun and say we almost look like a couple, as we dont seem to lose sight of each other. He'll just laugh it off, and get all close and say ';Yeahhhhh...'; jokingly.
I mean, im a bit shy about it, but i don't completely shy away from everything he does and what not. He'll do little things to, even if people aren't watching...he'll tap my right shoulder and appear on my left, and wink and smile. He'll put his hands on my shoulders, and massage them (A calming down thing) and mess around as he massages closer and closer off my shoulders to my chest. He'll jokingly say, ';Yeah, me and him had a GREAT time last night';. You know, provocatives and fun stuff. I was getting the idea he was beginning to return my feelings...
mind you, this is on a couple month progression...im still moving on. We went to our 8th grade field trip and hang out all day at the beach, and make comments to some of my friends while went to get changed back into our normal clothes ';you're going to help me pull up the zipper and EVERYTHING';.
i mean, was he just being fun and just going along with it? Later on, i'd outed to him...and it turns out he didnt feel that way...
but what would be your judgement? (Mind you, he still made small impressions on girls like, 'oh, she's hot' or something. but not TOO often)
not to mention he was also christian, but he was a nice guy, and when i out-ed to him, he told me ';I feel things for you. but more of a brother way, and not like a boyfriend would. but im willing to support you and your lifestyle';I need a male opinion.?
It's hard to say.
On one hand my gaydar was beeping at the massages and the zipper statement.
But again, maybe he is just a flirty, affectionate, brother-type guy.
So he said he *would* support you and your lifestyle? For a Christian that is a huge and wonderful thing he said to you.
Unless she says otherwise, you have to take him at his word.
But does he still give massages? I hope so. Ask him for one. And bask in the warm presence of a wonderful good friend.
Apparently he is not bf material. But until your bf shows up, it's great to have attractive and affectionate, supportive buddies.I need a male opinion.?
Same thing happened to me except without the christianity thing, I think sometimes guys go through phases of being more or less asexual. They might not seem interested in girls but it doesn't mean they are gay. He must just be a flirty person then? Ya think? My friend used to make passes at me all the time, turns out hes straight though. It's pretty easy to get the wrong opinion when you are hoping. I would have thought he was interested. I liked to story =)
Sometimes when we want something really badly, we tend to only see what we want and that turns out to be far from the reality of the matter.
I can definitely say I've been there and done that, and I think it's better to lower your expectations so you don't get hurt as much in the end.
I have a narcissistic mother-in-law and my partner is her helpless victim. How do I defend MY boundaries?
When I met my partner two years ago she told me up front that her mother is part of her package...no matter what. Since I had never met anyone as self-absorbed, manipulative, and abusive as her mother, I did not recognize that comment as the red flag it was. Eventually, she told me some stories about her mother, but they were so outrageous and unbelievable that I felt she was exaggerating. But then, I met her. She is NOTHING like ANY mother I have EVER known...And she has created a dynamic with her daughter that allows her to use and abuse her daughter at will, while managing to convince my partner that it is her duty to tend to her mother and that she should be ashamed at what a poor job she does of it.
I tried to mind my own business about it until the effects of her demands and mean, hurtful comments began to affect the relationship that was growing with my partner. One saturday, I walked in to find my girlfriend sobbing in the fetal position on the bathroom floor. Her mother had called to tell her that...since her rent was due, she had no food or cigarettes, and since her daughter had obviously abandoned her, she was just going to kill herself...and she wanted my g/f to know that her mother would be dead by Sunday.
She then turned off her phone. next, my girlfriend said that she HAD to go to check on her (three hour drive) because if she didn't and she actually did kill herself, she'd never forgive herself. So we loaded up some groceries, a carton of cigarettes, and headed to town. When we arrived, she would not look at us, did not even get up, and never said a word to us while we put her groceries away. We laid $400 on her coffee table, and left. She NEVER said thank you and never apologized.
The next time it happened, I called her phone and left a message telling her that her childish behavior was affecting my g/f so negatively that it is now affecting me. I said that her game might work on her daughter, but flat will not play. I told her that from now on if she had a need, we expected her to call us BEFORE its so critical that we have to drop what we are doing, and that she needed to state her need in a respectful and responsible way. I said that I had no problem helping her as long as she was respectful and not so destructive.
Some time passed and she was invited to come visit for the weekend. She never acknowledged the message to me but did tell my girlfriend that she was insulted and she felt she was attacked and deserved an apology. When she arrived here (for the first time ever) she totally ignored me for the first hour. Later I walked into the kitchen to find them discussing the conflict between she and I and I was blown away when my girlfriend said, 'i think this is all my fault because I may have made things sound a lot worse than they were when I was telling her (me) about it.
It gets much more involved including her quitting her job, losing her apartment, and moving in with us for eight months (leaving only after a series of blow ups that resulted in me finally saying,';Pack your stuff and GET OUT...';
I sent my partner a link about NPD and after reading it she was SO happy that she could finally validate for herself that SHE is not the problem. I think that having a name for it was such a relief that she was ok with it now that she had a name for it. But, I wasn't. I felt that she should stand up to her mother and make her mother respect--if not her boundaries--then at least MINE! She tried. She got a book about NPD and skimmed it. She did some journaling and cut back on the phone calls.
But--I feel like this woman has a lot of work to do and ammends to make before I am going to be willing to have anything to do with her. Of course, I am a heartless monster for evicting her and she will not speak to or look at me. I have said that she is not welcome in this house until she sits down and talks to me and takes some responsibility for the damage she did while she was here.
A month ago, she calls and says she has lung cancer and is really scared.
My partner jumps in her car and is gone for two days. When she comes back, she tells me that her mother is HER business. She told me at the beginning that they are a package deal and I am asking her to choose and warned me that no one will ever come between her and her mother and I need to accept that. She also said that addressing the NPD was all MY idea and she felt bullied into standing up to her mother.
I asked her to gather her things and move out as soon as possible. A week later she came over (with her mother) wanting to borrow $300 for her deposit. I said, ';Why are you asking me? I'm your #2. Did #1 turn you down?'; She stormed out.
I found out a couple days ago that they are both living in the apartment and her mother STILL doesn't have a job.
I know I can't solve their problems and I recognize that my desire to is a symptom of my own disease. But...man...she was SO CLOSE to standing up for herself...she was on the verge of clI have a narcissistic mother-in-law and my partner is her helpless victim. How do I defend MY boundaries?
Where's the rest of it!? I'm intrigued...
I don't know what to say really, when I first saw the heading ';narcissistic mother-in-law'; I rolled my eyes and thought, here we go... Haha.
But you're right, your MIL has issues!
I don't know too much about NPD but from what you've said, she sounds like an over-protective, over bearing, manipulative, controlling, attention seeking, clingy mother. She needs some medical help, especially if she's faking illnesses and threatening suicide, that's just too much.
Your GF is her mothers puppet, she's just encouraging her mums behavior by jumping at her every whim. Maybe your GF doesn't know how to be independent of her mum? maybe they both rely on each other, even though it's unhealthy for the pair of them.
Why does the MIL act like this with her daughter?
Does the MIL have any other children?
Does she have a man/woman in her life?
The MIL could be lonely, maybe if she had someone or something in her life to occupy her time with, she wouldn't be so damn needy.
I don't envy the position you're in. Like she said, her mum comes with the package. Can you live the rest of your life playing second fiddle to this woman? I know I couldn't...
All the best :)
EDIT - Haha, Oops and to answer your question...
I think you've made your boundaries pretty clear with the MIL - you just need to stick with them, and secondly you need to make these boundaries clear to your partner, explain that you love her (yadda, yadda) but these are the boundaries that YOU have with her mother.
And if she doesn't like it, well...
I tried to mind my own business about it until the effects of her demands and mean, hurtful comments began to affect the relationship that was growing with my partner. One saturday, I walked in to find my girlfriend sobbing in the fetal position on the bathroom floor. Her mother had called to tell her that...since her rent was due, she had no food or cigarettes, and since her daughter had obviously abandoned her, she was just going to kill herself...and she wanted my g/f to know that her mother would be dead by Sunday.
She then turned off her phone. next, my girlfriend said that she HAD to go to check on her (three hour drive) because if she didn't and she actually did kill herself, she'd never forgive herself. So we loaded up some groceries, a carton of cigarettes, and headed to town. When we arrived, she would not look at us, did not even get up, and never said a word to us while we put her groceries away. We laid $400 on her coffee table, and left. She NEVER said thank you and never apologized.
The next time it happened, I called her phone and left a message telling her that her childish behavior was affecting my g/f so negatively that it is now affecting me. I said that her game might work on her daughter, but flat will not play. I told her that from now on if she had a need, we expected her to call us BEFORE its so critical that we have to drop what we are doing, and that she needed to state her need in a respectful and responsible way. I said that I had no problem helping her as long as she was respectful and not so destructive.
Some time passed and she was invited to come visit for the weekend. She never acknowledged the message to me but did tell my girlfriend that she was insulted and she felt she was attacked and deserved an apology. When she arrived here (for the first time ever) she totally ignored me for the first hour. Later I walked into the kitchen to find them discussing the conflict between she and I and I was blown away when my girlfriend said, 'i think this is all my fault because I may have made things sound a lot worse than they were when I was telling her (me) about it.
It gets much more involved including her quitting her job, losing her apartment, and moving in with us for eight months (leaving only after a series of blow ups that resulted in me finally saying,';Pack your stuff and GET OUT...';
I sent my partner a link about NPD and after reading it she was SO happy that she could finally validate for herself that SHE is not the problem. I think that having a name for it was such a relief that she was ok with it now that she had a name for it. But, I wasn't. I felt that she should stand up to her mother and make her mother respect--if not her boundaries--then at least MINE! She tried. She got a book about NPD and skimmed it. She did some journaling and cut back on the phone calls.
But--I feel like this woman has a lot of work to do and ammends to make before I am going to be willing to have anything to do with her. Of course, I am a heartless monster for evicting her and she will not speak to or look at me. I have said that she is not welcome in this house until she sits down and talks to me and takes some responsibility for the damage she did while she was here.
A month ago, she calls and says she has lung cancer and is really scared.
My partner jumps in her car and is gone for two days. When she comes back, she tells me that her mother is HER business. She told me at the beginning that they are a package deal and I am asking her to choose and warned me that no one will ever come between her and her mother and I need to accept that. She also said that addressing the NPD was all MY idea and she felt bullied into standing up to her mother.
I asked her to gather her things and move out as soon as possible. A week later she came over (with her mother) wanting to borrow $300 for her deposit. I said, ';Why are you asking me? I'm your #2. Did #1 turn you down?'; She stormed out.
I found out a couple days ago that they are both living in the apartment and her mother STILL doesn't have a job.
I know I can't solve their problems and I recognize that my desire to is a symptom of my own disease. But...man...she was SO CLOSE to standing up for herself...she was on the verge of clI have a narcissistic mother-in-law and my partner is her helpless victim. How do I defend MY boundaries?
Where's the rest of it!? I'm intrigued...
I don't know what to say really, when I first saw the heading ';narcissistic mother-in-law'; I rolled my eyes and thought, here we go... Haha.
But you're right, your MIL has issues!
I don't know too much about NPD but from what you've said, she sounds like an over-protective, over bearing, manipulative, controlling, attention seeking, clingy mother. She needs some medical help, especially if she's faking illnesses and threatening suicide, that's just too much.
Your GF is her mothers puppet, she's just encouraging her mums behavior by jumping at her every whim. Maybe your GF doesn't know how to be independent of her mum? maybe they both rely on each other, even though it's unhealthy for the pair of them.
Why does the MIL act like this with her daughter?
Does the MIL have any other children?
Does she have a man/woman in her life?
The MIL could be lonely, maybe if she had someone or something in her life to occupy her time with, she wouldn't be so damn needy.
I don't envy the position you're in. Like she said, her mum comes with the package. Can you live the rest of your life playing second fiddle to this woman? I know I couldn't...
All the best :)
EDIT - Haha, Oops and to answer your question...
I think you've made your boundaries pretty clear with the MIL - you just need to stick with them, and secondly you need to make these boundaries clear to your partner, explain that you love her (yadda, yadda) but these are the boundaries that YOU have with her mother.
And if she doesn't like it, well...
Does this sound like a decent story? Please comment!?
i just got really bored and wrote this! what do u think?
I knew being with him would cost, but I had never imagined this.
When I moved to Peachtree Georgia I never thought I’d meet him. I’ve always been told to expect the unexpected, but still this was still pretty unexpected.
Well lets start from the beginning.
I woke up from only a few hours of sleep. I checked the time and rolled back over in bed. How could I possibly drag myself out of bed when I felt like, like this?
“Bella! Are you getting up?” I heard my mom, Audrey, yell from downstairs. I groaned. “I told you, if you need one more day to unpack your stuff and get settled you can.” Audrey yelled. “No, I’m going.” I sighed; I guess I should go ahead and get the first day out of the way. I kicked the blankets unto the floor and stumbled out of bed. I stared at myself in the mirror, and sighed again. Maybe today would be ok, not as bad as I had thought. Ah, who was I kidding, I’m a new girl now; no first day is going to be okay.
I opened my unpacked suitcase and threw out a pair of jeans, a tee shirt, and my old brown jacket. I don’t like getting dressed up, not for school anyway. I ran downstairs. Grabbed a protein bar, and ran out the door.
Gosh, I thought. I really could use a car. It was only the first day but I knew I couldn’t stand walking to school every morning. I was not going to ask Audrey for a car, how ridiculous.
As I walking into the big brown door of the school, I had mixed emotions. Part of me was excited to see where I’d be spending the next 3 years of torture at, yet the other half wanted to crawl back in bed. A girl with two long blonde pig tails eyed me down, making me feel very uncomfortable. Wow, this is exactly what I didn’t want to happen. Every girl I saw was wearing a skirt. Couldn’t Audrey have told me about this? She knows I hate dress and skirts. Well, I guess I’d given them something to notice. Witch is a bad thing to me. When I walked into the office I was greeted by a tall stern looking man. “You must be Emma.” He asked. “Yes.” I replied. He handed me a scudule of all my classes. “Thanks.” I said taking it and turning for the door. “Wait.” He yelled after me. I turned around. “Let me give you a little world of advice, you don’t want to get in trouble around here. Do your best not to get involved with certain people.” He said, leaning his head toward the desk, where a mysterious looking guy stood. I just nodded, “That’s all.” He said. I tried to make sense of his words. The guy he didn’t want me to be around was the one I felt like I needed to be around.
I slowly walked to my first class- gym. Great. My worst class is my homeroom. The gym was big and full of people. I made my way threw the crowd and sat down on the bleachers. I could feel all the attention I was drawing in. I hated it. Just as I was about to get up a friendly looking guy walked toward me. “You must be new?” He asked. “Yea.” I said. “I’m Matthew. And you are?” He asked. “Isabella. Well, Bella.” I asked. “Hm. You any good at basketball?” Matt asked. Shew, He had more questions than I had answers. “I’m not sure.” I said with a slight chuckle. “Right.” He said and walked off. Wow. Great way to end a convosation Bella. I wanted to kick myself.
My day went by slowly. It was only 12:00. Lunch was in 10 minutes and I had no idea where I was going to sit. Only 2 people had spoken to me so far. Matthew and a girl named Amy. She was nice. I hated to invite myself to tables. I had made up my mind; I would simply sit at the nearest empty table! Alone.
I walked into the cafeteria. Hoping to see a empty table. Lucky me there was one. I quickly sat down and bit into my apple. When something caught the corner of my eye, him. The guy at the desk this morning. The one Mr. Burkes told me to stay away from. My heart started pounding out of my chest. He was not about to sit at my table was he? He did. I didn’t look him in the face, or at all. I just looked down at the floor. “Are you going to say something?” He asked. I didn’t know what to say, so I said something I bitterly regret. “Are you?” As soon as it escaped my lips I realized I had supplied another question- not an answer.Does this sound like a decent story? Please comment!?
For someone who's 12, doesn't look too bad. I'll give you some tips.
-Grammar checking.
Well lets start from the beginning. ';lets'; should be ';let's'; because it's short for ';let us';.
';Witch'; should be ';Which';.
How could I possibly drag myself out of bed when I felt like, like this?.
It isn't necessary to repeat the word ';like'; here.
I ran downstairs. Grabbed a protein bar, and ran out the door.
Combine these sentences together. ';I ran downstairs, grabbed a protein bar and ran out the door.';
For speaking, start a new line for each person.
Also, who's ';Emma';. Could that be a typo? Or is Bella your character's middle name and she prefers being called by that or something?
By the way - are you a Twilight fan? I can sense an underlying inspiration from the story, like the name ';Bella'; and the man advising her not to involve herself with certain people. Edward, anyone?Does this sound like a decent story? Please comment!?
who really is gonna read all of this!
ME
it was really good i liked it
it bored me
okay the girls name is:
emma
bella
and isabella?
It kinda sounds a whole lot like twilight.
other then that, its good.
I like it, its got a Twilight thing going on with the names and stuff but its good!
I knew being with him would cost, but I had never imagined this.
When I moved to Peachtree Georgia I never thought I’d meet him. I’ve always been told to expect the unexpected, but still this was still pretty unexpected.
Well lets start from the beginning.
I woke up from only a few hours of sleep. I checked the time and rolled back over in bed. How could I possibly drag myself out of bed when I felt like, like this?
“Bella! Are you getting up?” I heard my mom, Audrey, yell from downstairs. I groaned. “I told you, if you need one more day to unpack your stuff and get settled you can.” Audrey yelled. “No, I’m going.” I sighed; I guess I should go ahead and get the first day out of the way. I kicked the blankets unto the floor and stumbled out of bed. I stared at myself in the mirror, and sighed again. Maybe today would be ok, not as bad as I had thought. Ah, who was I kidding, I’m a new girl now; no first day is going to be okay.
I opened my unpacked suitcase and threw out a pair of jeans, a tee shirt, and my old brown jacket. I don’t like getting dressed up, not for school anyway. I ran downstairs. Grabbed a protein bar, and ran out the door.
Gosh, I thought. I really could use a car. It was only the first day but I knew I couldn’t stand walking to school every morning. I was not going to ask Audrey for a car, how ridiculous.
As I walking into the big brown door of the school, I had mixed emotions. Part of me was excited to see where I’d be spending the next 3 years of torture at, yet the other half wanted to crawl back in bed. A girl with two long blonde pig tails eyed me down, making me feel very uncomfortable. Wow, this is exactly what I didn’t want to happen. Every girl I saw was wearing a skirt. Couldn’t Audrey have told me about this? She knows I hate dress and skirts. Well, I guess I’d given them something to notice. Witch is a bad thing to me. When I walked into the office I was greeted by a tall stern looking man. “You must be Emma.” He asked. “Yes.” I replied. He handed me a scudule of all my classes. “Thanks.” I said taking it and turning for the door. “Wait.” He yelled after me. I turned around. “Let me give you a little world of advice, you don’t want to get in trouble around here. Do your best not to get involved with certain people.” He said, leaning his head toward the desk, where a mysterious looking guy stood. I just nodded, “That’s all.” He said. I tried to make sense of his words. The guy he didn’t want me to be around was the one I felt like I needed to be around.
I slowly walked to my first class- gym. Great. My worst class is my homeroom. The gym was big and full of people. I made my way threw the crowd and sat down on the bleachers. I could feel all the attention I was drawing in. I hated it. Just as I was about to get up a friendly looking guy walked toward me. “You must be new?” He asked. “Yea.” I said. “I’m Matthew. And you are?” He asked. “Isabella. Well, Bella.” I asked. “Hm. You any good at basketball?” Matt asked. Shew, He had more questions than I had answers. “I’m not sure.” I said with a slight chuckle. “Right.” He said and walked off. Wow. Great way to end a convosation Bella. I wanted to kick myself.
My day went by slowly. It was only 12:00. Lunch was in 10 minutes and I had no idea where I was going to sit. Only 2 people had spoken to me so far. Matthew and a girl named Amy. She was nice. I hated to invite myself to tables. I had made up my mind; I would simply sit at the nearest empty table! Alone.
I walked into the cafeteria. Hoping to see a empty table. Lucky me there was one. I quickly sat down and bit into my apple. When something caught the corner of my eye, him. The guy at the desk this morning. The one Mr. Burkes told me to stay away from. My heart started pounding out of my chest. He was not about to sit at my table was he? He did. I didn’t look him in the face, or at all. I just looked down at the floor. “Are you going to say something?” He asked. I didn’t know what to say, so I said something I bitterly regret. “Are you?” As soon as it escaped my lips I realized I had supplied another question- not an answer.Does this sound like a decent story? Please comment!?
For someone who's 12, doesn't look too bad. I'll give you some tips.
-Grammar checking.
Well lets start from the beginning. ';lets'; should be ';let's'; because it's short for ';let us';.
';Witch'; should be ';Which';.
How could I possibly drag myself out of bed when I felt like, like this?.
It isn't necessary to repeat the word ';like'; here.
I ran downstairs. Grabbed a protein bar, and ran out the door.
Combine these sentences together. ';I ran downstairs, grabbed a protein bar and ran out the door.';
For speaking, start a new line for each person.
Also, who's ';Emma';. Could that be a typo? Or is Bella your character's middle name and she prefers being called by that or something?
By the way - are you a Twilight fan? I can sense an underlying inspiration from the story, like the name ';Bella'; and the man advising her not to involve herself with certain people. Edward, anyone?Does this sound like a decent story? Please comment!?
who really is gonna read all of this!
ME
it was really good i liked it
it bored me
okay the girls name is:
emma
bella
and isabella?
It kinda sounds a whole lot like twilight.
other then that, its good.
I like it, its got a Twilight thing going on with the names and stuff but its good!
Are my friends real friends? can you ever have a real friendship?
my friends well, i moved forms and made friends with some of the people in there and i made a good friendship with one of the other guys in the form but i feel like i follow him around at lunch and stuff i feel awkward cause all my other friends would h8 it if i hanged around with them at lunch so i just hang around with him - so we were talking and he said oh dont worry about it i dont mind your a good m8 but we never been to each others house or gone up town or anything like that,(i invitied him a few times but he shrugs it off her maybe or i might be doing something) am i becoming a follower? (as i have been called a few times) but how do i become someone who you can invite to go places etc id like to do stuff like that but i think they think im boring and a boffin so i cant be invitied to go places cause im not ';cool enough'; ?
will i ever have a real best friend?Are my friends real friends? can you ever have a real friendship?
The best friend you could ever meet s YOU. why wasting time and energy on being with people who ignores you or ditches you out? Start spending lunch time by yourself or sitting at different tables with different people. It will be awkward at first, but you'll talk to people eventually and they're going to talk back at you. Love yourself you're a wonderful person and if your ';friends'; don't want to hang out with you, well, it's their loss.Are my friends real friends? can you ever have a real friendship?
Friendship is rare nowdays but whatever you do u must never spend time with people who don't want to spend theirs with you...
will i ever have a real best friend?Are my friends real friends? can you ever have a real friendship?
The best friend you could ever meet s YOU. why wasting time and energy on being with people who ignores you or ditches you out? Start spending lunch time by yourself or sitting at different tables with different people. It will be awkward at first, but you'll talk to people eventually and they're going to talk back at you. Love yourself you're a wonderful person and if your ';friends'; don't want to hang out with you, well, it's their loss.Are my friends real friends? can you ever have a real friendship?
Friendship is rare nowdays but whatever you do u must never spend time with people who don't want to spend theirs with you...
How to get out of our rental lease?
So long story short. Me and my fiance and our baby moved in with our ';best friends'; (couple and their baby) .
Well, everything is going just dandy until our roomate quits his job and starts having problems. We are starting college so we got internet and wireless... we made the wireless secured obviously so no one can use it. They already get free cable off of us becuase they cant pay it and now are mad becuase we wont give them the password to the internet when really they dont pay anything for either cable or internet.
All other bills are split in half.
Well now they are coming back with, ';you use our pots and pans and washer and dryer (mind you they got for free)';
So I told them, okay no problem since we wont be using any of your stuff you dont use ours...Right? And if they are only going to be using the washer and dryer shouldnt they be putting more money to electric? The dryer is one of the biggest electric hogs in the house.
That is just one of the little problems we are dealing with. Its like we get internet and all the sudden all h e ll breaks loose.
Obviously weve learned a lesson NOT to sign with your roomates on a lease because of stupid things like this, but besides ';well your screwed'; , Any suggestions?How to get out of our rental lease?
Sadly you are likely stuck. You can go to the LL; it's possible they will terminate the entire lease, but all parties may have to agree. You may just need to tough it out. Sorry.How to get out of our rental lease?
You're not going to get out of this lease arrangement without everyone getting bloody noses. It won't be pretty. Just make sure you give them plenty of advance warning that you are not going to renew and will be moving out when the lease term is up.
Go ahead and let them use the wireless access to the internet (keep it secure; just give them the password). It isn't going to cost you a penny more for your service. That will let you continue to use the washer/dryer and pots/pans and y'all not painting a white line down the middle of the place.
If things get really bad, talk to the landlord about options of ending the lease early. Sometimes they will work with you, as long as they can keep it rented and there is no damage. They don't have to, but it doesn't hurt to ask. Just don't walk on it or we'll be seeing all of you on an upcoming Judge Judy episode. And those never end well for people who just vacate...what to use to cover a laptop
Well, everything is going just dandy until our roomate quits his job and starts having problems. We are starting college so we got internet and wireless... we made the wireless secured obviously so no one can use it. They already get free cable off of us becuase they cant pay it and now are mad becuase we wont give them the password to the internet when really they dont pay anything for either cable or internet.
All other bills are split in half.
Well now they are coming back with, ';you use our pots and pans and washer and dryer (mind you they got for free)';
So I told them, okay no problem since we wont be using any of your stuff you dont use ours...Right? And if they are only going to be using the washer and dryer shouldnt they be putting more money to electric? The dryer is one of the biggest electric hogs in the house.
That is just one of the little problems we are dealing with. Its like we get internet and all the sudden all h e ll breaks loose.
Obviously weve learned a lesson NOT to sign with your roomates on a lease because of stupid things like this, but besides ';well your screwed'; , Any suggestions?How to get out of our rental lease?
Sadly you are likely stuck. You can go to the LL; it's possible they will terminate the entire lease, but all parties may have to agree. You may just need to tough it out. Sorry.How to get out of our rental lease?
You're not going to get out of this lease arrangement without everyone getting bloody noses. It won't be pretty. Just make sure you give them plenty of advance warning that you are not going to renew and will be moving out when the lease term is up.
Go ahead and let them use the wireless access to the internet (keep it secure; just give them the password). It isn't going to cost you a penny more for your service. That will let you continue to use the washer/dryer and pots/pans and y'all not painting a white line down the middle of the place.
If things get really bad, talk to the landlord about options of ending the lease early. Sometimes they will work with you, as long as they can keep it rented and there is no damage. They don't have to, but it doesn't hurt to ask. Just don't walk on it or we'll be seeing all of you on an upcoming Judge Judy episode. And those never end well for people who just vacate...
Does this story suck? my friend wrote it and i hate it?
“…Why mom? Why do we have to move?” I asked because I was happy living my life in Hollywood, California as a model. I wasn’t very popular, but my agent said, “I was on my way.” I didn’t believe him until one day someone came up to me and said, “Hey you’re that girl that was on that one magazine.” Not my exact envision of how the first person would notice me.
“Just get your god damn stuff ready and get your butt in the car.” Wow!! I have never heard her swear this much since before I went to modeling.
“Fine. Fine I will be right down there.” I already had all of my stuff ready, but my mom didn’t know that. So I took my time coming down the steps, and out of the door. Mother wasn’t too happy about that. Once I was inside of the car she said.
“I you act like this when we movie into our new home ill kick your butt out of the house so fast you wont know what happen to you.” I was actually frightened of my mom, which is very rare since she is known for her kindness.
--
We are on the plane, and I am very sleepy. I’m falling asleep, and what I dreamed about isn’t going to hit me until it happens. ::. It’s so sunny here. I thought to myself. I turned my head and saw the man standing next to me, and he was frightingly handsome. I couldn’t help myself from looking at him, and his dark brown hair, and green eyes. He was tall very, very tall. He said, “hi im Giovanni, what’s yours?” “Le Ann.” “Le Ann, Le Ann get the ([beep] she didn’t hear it) up, and get out of the plane we are here.”
We were here, and it was beautiful. We were now in New Mexico. It looks very familiarly. I wonder why. (She doesn’t know it is from here dreams. ^)
“Le Ann you are going to be going to school here, and we are going to live here for about 5 years,” my dad said. Wait where did dad come from? And it was just like my mom was reading my mind and she said that he was already here and that she didn’t want to tell me because she didn’t want me to ask him why he was here, and I already knew. His other kids from his previous marriage.
He always moved where they moved, and to me my mom didn’t seem to mind. They all loved her as much as they loved my dad. Their mom died, and that is why we always moved.
I know that it doesn’t make sense, but if you were in his situation you would understand.
Our stuff was already at the house because my dad took it with him the other day. We have been sleeping on the floor for the past couple of days, and I am excited that our stuff is here because I am excited to go to sleep in my own bed.
My mom says she doesn’t know who I got loving sleeping from, because it wasn’t her or my dad. I think that im like and old person because I like to sleep.
I go to take a warm shower, and it was warm. Should take a cold one I thought as I was getting inside the shower.
I think to myself what a wonderful world. Just kidding I was thinking how the next 5 years would go, and all I could think about is nothing.
I thought I would be happy, and that I could make new friends, and maybe find a boyfriend. Maybe I could even stay here, and finish my senior year here, and then get a job, and find a house, and get married…
“Ann GET OUT OF THE SHOWER.” Shouted someone, I couldn’t quite figure out whose voice it was since I was technically in a daydream and then ripped out by a voice.
So I did as the voice told, and it ended up being my mom. It didn’t sound like her though. I went into my room, and saw some one on my bed, and my first thought it was my dad, but when I got closer I saw that it wasn’t.
Who is this person? I thought and when I was about to call to my mother the person…
P.S. I think i got all of the cursing out if not sorry. My friend is a big potty mouthDoes this story suck? my friend wrote it and i hate it?
If this is your friend's writing, is (s)he allowing you to post it on the internet for all to see, copy, and/or criticize?
Just wondering
Add:
I'm agreeing with Ash.
I feel this question is very wrong at the moment.
You have no right to post this if it isn't your work.Does this story suck? my friend wrote it and i hate it?
I think it's quite badly written. Sorry. :(
You know that really does suck, and very badly written. So yes, It SUCKS!!!
if this is your friends story then you really don't have any right to post it on the internet. your basically stealing their work, and allowing everyone on the internet an opportunity to steal it as well.
It is completely filled with errors. The swearing isn't the problem. Your friend changes tenses, she has many grammatical errors, and it's far too jumpy. Nothing is explained very well. Also, don't insert author's notes in the middle of the story.
The tone of the story is very rushed, and it seems as though your friend doesn't know what she's doing at all, and that she's very young.
WTF that sucked.
i got through half of it but
I had to stop.
My mom says she doesn’t know who I got loving sleeping from, because it wasn’t her or my dad. I think that im like and old person because I like to sleep.
I think to myself what a wonderful world. Just kidding I was thinking how the next 5 years would go, and all I could think about is nothing
WTF??
Bad grammar, ridiculous ideas, weird end i can see from the ';your answer'; box,
doesn't flow, confusing to read
this writing needs work....
weell everything wasnt explained but i guess it could be good with more work :) x
The story was alright but a little stupid and corny! Yet it was very confusing to me.
it's very badly written. it kind of varies between past and present tense and the punctuation isn't put in the right places.
its also a very hard story to follow and it got really confusing when she girl was on a plane and a complete randomer introduced himself.
i also didn't understand the bit about her dad being there. that made absolutly zero sense, and the very last bit was plain odd.
You might have noticed i'm in a very critical mood today :L
You/your friend need to describe more and fix the mistakes.
'to take a warm shower, and it was warm'
WTF?? Yeah...A warm shower is usually warm...
And when the heck did they get off the plane and into the house?? it just kinda skipped.
I would try to make it a little more intresting.
GL
Why are you posting your friends work online to criticize, it's kind of mean specially if she finds out, reads the comments and then finds out that her writing needs to be worked on.
Also how did you get her writing and copy it, or is it your own but you just don't want people to know?
Yeah, it's not very good. I don't know if you typed it out yourself, but if you copied and pasted, then she cannot write. She doesn't know much about grammar or how to tell a story, she doesn't have much of an ear for dialogue and it isn't very imaginative or intelligent - a story about a model in California, who doesn't know that the first time she is noticed on the street is bound to be as ';that girl who was on that magazine';, and is so stupid she doesn't realize when her plane has landed? I don't know if your friend has ever been on a plane, but I have, and you NOTICE landing and taking off. They are the times you are most likely to puke. The scenes are also hurried and there is little time and care spent getting to know the characters.
Every published author has written plenty of rubbish when they were starting out. Good writing takes a lot of practise. Your friend may have potential, though I can't see much - but I'm not an expert.
Being her friend, it might be best to pretend you like the story more than you do, and give maybe a little constructive criticism. (Nicer than what I said about the story). No need to ';be cruel to be kind'; as I doubt she's seriously considering being a writer when she's older - from what she's written, she seems more interested in being a model than anything intellectual. (Not that all models are stupid - some are quite smart. But you don't need to be to wear clothes). This story is probably more of a fantasy of hers. Fantasies, as long as they aren't taken too seriously, are harmless and fun. Maybe you could suggest that you both write stories and compare them - anything silly, imaginative, funny, whatever.
“Just get your god damn stuff ready and get your butt in the car.” Wow!! I have never heard her swear this much since before I went to modeling.
“Fine. Fine I will be right down there.” I already had all of my stuff ready, but my mom didn’t know that. So I took my time coming down the steps, and out of the door. Mother wasn’t too happy about that. Once I was inside of the car she said.
“I you act like this when we movie into our new home ill kick your butt out of the house so fast you wont know what happen to you.” I was actually frightened of my mom, which is very rare since she is known for her kindness.
--
We are on the plane, and I am very sleepy. I’m falling asleep, and what I dreamed about isn’t going to hit me until it happens. ::. It’s so sunny here. I thought to myself. I turned my head and saw the man standing next to me, and he was frightingly handsome. I couldn’t help myself from looking at him, and his dark brown hair, and green eyes. He was tall very, very tall. He said, “hi im Giovanni, what’s yours?” “Le Ann.” “Le Ann, Le Ann get the ([beep] she didn’t hear it) up, and get out of the plane we are here.”
We were here, and it was beautiful. We were now in New Mexico. It looks very familiarly. I wonder why. (She doesn’t know it is from here dreams. ^)
“Le Ann you are going to be going to school here, and we are going to live here for about 5 years,” my dad said. Wait where did dad come from? And it was just like my mom was reading my mind and she said that he was already here and that she didn’t want to tell me because she didn’t want me to ask him why he was here, and I already knew. His other kids from his previous marriage.
He always moved where they moved, and to me my mom didn’t seem to mind. They all loved her as much as they loved my dad. Their mom died, and that is why we always moved.
I know that it doesn’t make sense, but if you were in his situation you would understand.
Our stuff was already at the house because my dad took it with him the other day. We have been sleeping on the floor for the past couple of days, and I am excited that our stuff is here because I am excited to go to sleep in my own bed.
My mom says she doesn’t know who I got loving sleeping from, because it wasn’t her or my dad. I think that im like and old person because I like to sleep.
I go to take a warm shower, and it was warm. Should take a cold one I thought as I was getting inside the shower.
I think to myself what a wonderful world. Just kidding I was thinking how the next 5 years would go, and all I could think about is nothing.
I thought I would be happy, and that I could make new friends, and maybe find a boyfriend. Maybe I could even stay here, and finish my senior year here, and then get a job, and find a house, and get married…
“Ann GET OUT OF THE SHOWER.” Shouted someone, I couldn’t quite figure out whose voice it was since I was technically in a daydream and then ripped out by a voice.
So I did as the voice told, and it ended up being my mom. It didn’t sound like her though. I went into my room, and saw some one on my bed, and my first thought it was my dad, but when I got closer I saw that it wasn’t.
Who is this person? I thought and when I was about to call to my mother the person…
P.S. I think i got all of the cursing out if not sorry. My friend is a big potty mouthDoes this story suck? my friend wrote it and i hate it?
If this is your friend's writing, is (s)he allowing you to post it on the internet for all to see, copy, and/or criticize?
Just wondering
Add:
I'm agreeing with Ash.
I feel this question is very wrong at the moment.
You have no right to post this if it isn't your work.Does this story suck? my friend wrote it and i hate it?
I think it's quite badly written. Sorry. :(
You know that really does suck, and very badly written. So yes, It SUCKS!!!
if this is your friends story then you really don't have any right to post it on the internet. your basically stealing their work, and allowing everyone on the internet an opportunity to steal it as well.
It is completely filled with errors. The swearing isn't the problem. Your friend changes tenses, she has many grammatical errors, and it's far too jumpy. Nothing is explained very well. Also, don't insert author's notes in the middle of the story.
The tone of the story is very rushed, and it seems as though your friend doesn't know what she's doing at all, and that she's very young.
WTF that sucked.
i got through half of it but
I had to stop.
My mom says she doesn’t know who I got loving sleeping from, because it wasn’t her or my dad. I think that im like and old person because I like to sleep.
I think to myself what a wonderful world. Just kidding I was thinking how the next 5 years would go, and all I could think about is nothing
WTF??
Bad grammar, ridiculous ideas, weird end i can see from the ';your answer'; box,
doesn't flow, confusing to read
this writing needs work....
weell everything wasnt explained but i guess it could be good with more work :) x
The story was alright but a little stupid and corny! Yet it was very confusing to me.
it's very badly written. it kind of varies between past and present tense and the punctuation isn't put in the right places.
its also a very hard story to follow and it got really confusing when she girl was on a plane and a complete randomer introduced himself.
i also didn't understand the bit about her dad being there. that made absolutly zero sense, and the very last bit was plain odd.
You might have noticed i'm in a very critical mood today :L
You/your friend need to describe more and fix the mistakes.
'to take a warm shower, and it was warm'
WTF?? Yeah...A warm shower is usually warm...
And when the heck did they get off the plane and into the house?? it just kinda skipped.
I would try to make it a little more intresting.
GL
Why are you posting your friends work online to criticize, it's kind of mean specially if she finds out, reads the comments and then finds out that her writing needs to be worked on.
Also how did you get her writing and copy it, or is it your own but you just don't want people to know?
Yeah, it's not very good. I don't know if you typed it out yourself, but if you copied and pasted, then she cannot write. She doesn't know much about grammar or how to tell a story, she doesn't have much of an ear for dialogue and it isn't very imaginative or intelligent - a story about a model in California, who doesn't know that the first time she is noticed on the street is bound to be as ';that girl who was on that magazine';, and is so stupid she doesn't realize when her plane has landed? I don't know if your friend has ever been on a plane, but I have, and you NOTICE landing and taking off. They are the times you are most likely to puke. The scenes are also hurried and there is little time and care spent getting to know the characters.
Every published author has written plenty of rubbish when they were starting out. Good writing takes a lot of practise. Your friend may have potential, though I can't see much - but I'm not an expert.
Being her friend, it might be best to pretend you like the story more than you do, and give maybe a little constructive criticism. (Nicer than what I said about the story). No need to ';be cruel to be kind'; as I doubt she's seriously considering being a writer when she's older - from what she's written, she seems more interested in being a model than anything intellectual. (Not that all models are stupid - some are quite smart. But you don't need to be to wear clothes). This story is probably more of a fantasy of hers. Fantasies, as long as they aren't taken too seriously, are harmless and fun. Maybe you could suggest that you both write stories and compare them - anything silly, imaginative, funny, whatever.
I want to make an Ouija board, but I don't know if I should... Due to some bad experiences..?
I'm rather interested in the spirit world, I have already used my own home made Ouija board, but I keep on getting the same people with every board I make. There is Jack, and Bret (They are related and had an argument as adults and ended it with death Bret died when he was 25, he is rather nice towards me and makes me laugh I feel like I can trust him I talk to him as if my friend on the phone we share many different things, but lately he has been saying stuff like ';your doomed, Possession, and your death is near,'; it's starting to alarm me, but Jack on the other hand is a mean nasty person.. all he does is cuss, and tell you that the devil will kill you... I don't understand what's going on there. My friends at school think I'm ';cool'; because I'm a Satanist, and believe in the spirit world so they told me to bring my Ouija bored to school, they started talking to both Jack and Bret... Then this other weird thing channled through and started saying ';I am many, we are six'; I was like erm okay, I noticed the planttchet starting to move funny in figure eights and it was getting strong, and I have studied about the Ouija board and the danger, what to do what not to do, how safe it is, and so on but in when I was studying the rules it said if it starts to figure eight or circle alot, its oppening a port hole.. So I told them to say good bye now, the spirit went to no I told them to yell good bye it said no, then I told them to repeat after me and it was a something used to bless and clens things and the activity died down... This all freaked them out, and it didn't freak me out as much as it did them. So now when I'm home or alone I feel cold, like I'm being watched and I close my eyes and see dark evil eyes... it's strange, I think I just scared myself to much and my mind is going in all different directions... I get these weird day dream things when im deep in thought, and about helpless souls stranded, and they are dark blurs kinda like shadows, but I'm wide awake I think its all in my head.. Things are just a little wooooooo! Oh well I have been avoiding the Ouija bored now for a while, and I want to speack to them again should I tempt it again or just leave well enough alone?
(Please dont call me crazy or anything... I'm just a 14 year old kid with an over active imagination)I want to make an Ouija board, but I don't know if I should... Due to some bad experiences..?
take time to explain yourself.
but never write in detailI want to make an Ouija board, but I don't know if I should... Due to some bad experiences..?
however difficult remember
that you should speak frankly
but never drown others with your words
Didn't read all that. Paragraphs are your friend.
Make a ouija board if you want. I wouldn't recommend it though, not because it's ';evil'; or anything but because you need to just get over death of your loved ones. You'll be stronger because of it.
Playing with a ouija board kid....is like opening the doors of hell letting into your house
Leave it alone! You can open yourself up to some bad spirits.
Sounds like fun.
maybe you should stay away from it for a while. something like that happened to my mom and she had to pray and her aunt prayed for her and it went away but idk what your religious view is so yea anyways the ouija board can be pretty scary i have played it with my friends and it said we were speaking to the devil, kinda scary
ok... you call yourself a satanist... shouldnt you be happy about this??
Turn from evil!
Repent and look to God and live.
Prepare to live forever.
Damnation is sorrow and desolation.
Read the book of mormon.
There is opposition in all things, by the way.
I'm being very serious here, you have invited demonic spirits into your life. That's why they are getting mean. The only freedom from this in Christ. He alone has power over them. Please pray and ask Him for help.
Please do not...
(Deuteronomy 18:10-12) There should not be found in you anyone who makes his son or his daughter pass through the fire, anyone who employs divination, a practicer of magic or anyone who looks for omens or a sorcerer, 11?or one who binds others with a spell or anyone who consults a spirit medium or a professional foreteller of events or anyone who inquires of the dead. 12?For everybody doing these things is something detestable to Jehovah, and on account of these detestable things Jehovah your God is driving them away from before you.
Two things I want to say. One, I had a similar experience the first time I used the Ouji in that when I demanded to know who the spirit was that was moving the glass, it told me to F____ off and threw the paper letters on the floor. (We made ours.) I never touched it again.
Secondly, I have never heard anyone say that God connected with them through a Ouji board. It is a dangerous and dark portal that allows unclean spirits, or demons, to communicate with us. Most people who use this device are seeking for answers in life but the spirits that come through the Ouji will lie, deceive you and misdirect you so why start? If you are a Satanist, then you need to know that Jesus said Satan is a liar and the father of lies. He said Satan ';appears as an angel of light to deceive and to destroy.'; That's who you have been worshipping.
If you need the truth, the Ouji isn't going to give you that. Satan rules hell, a place where God doesn't live, and I don't think you want to go there. It is the opposite of heaven, and once Satan has you, he will laugh at you and hate you and in hell, he will torture you. I see by your scary experiences that the possession of his spirit has already taken hold of you and now that he has you, he is starting to do his evil on you. But don't worry, I have the answer for you.
The bible says Satan argues with God for even the souls of the saints! When I got rid of my occult items, I still felt a spirit of evil so I phoned a friend who told me to check again. Sure enough, when I got rid of the book I still had, the evil spirit left and I had peace. I’ve been basking in God’s love ever since.
First, you must get rid of every object of Satan worship--witchcraft items, the book of Satan, clothes and other ritualistic items and of course the Ouji board. But don’t put them in the garbage, because it will find it’s way to someone else and you don't want some little kid becoming possessed. Instead, put all these objects into a metal garbage bin and set it on fire away from trees or the house, etc. Then when you turn your life over to God, the energy on these items won't hang on to you.
I will be praying for you Morgan. You do your job and I'll do mine. If you aren't freed by this experience get into a Christian group that believes in deliverance from Satanic spirits. They will love the challenge and work to set you free. Hope this helps.
(Please dont call me crazy or anything... I'm just a 14 year old kid with an over active imagination)I want to make an Ouija board, but I don't know if I should... Due to some bad experiences..?
take time to explain yourself.
but never write in detailI want to make an Ouija board, but I don't know if I should... Due to some bad experiences..?
however difficult remember
that you should speak frankly
but never drown others with your words
Didn't read all that. Paragraphs are your friend.
Make a ouija board if you want. I wouldn't recommend it though, not because it's ';evil'; or anything but because you need to just get over death of your loved ones. You'll be stronger because of it.
Playing with a ouija board kid....is like opening the doors of hell letting into your house
Leave it alone! You can open yourself up to some bad spirits.
Sounds like fun.
maybe you should stay away from it for a while. something like that happened to my mom and she had to pray and her aunt prayed for her and it went away but idk what your religious view is so yea anyways the ouija board can be pretty scary i have played it with my friends and it said we were speaking to the devil, kinda scary
ok... you call yourself a satanist... shouldnt you be happy about this??
Turn from evil!
Repent and look to God and live.
Prepare to live forever.
Damnation is sorrow and desolation.
Read the book of mormon.
There is opposition in all things, by the way.
I'm being very serious here, you have invited demonic spirits into your life. That's why they are getting mean. The only freedom from this in Christ. He alone has power over them. Please pray and ask Him for help.
Please do not...
(Deuteronomy 18:10-12) There should not be found in you anyone who makes his son or his daughter pass through the fire, anyone who employs divination, a practicer of magic or anyone who looks for omens or a sorcerer, 11?or one who binds others with a spell or anyone who consults a spirit medium or a professional foreteller of events or anyone who inquires of the dead. 12?For everybody doing these things is something detestable to Jehovah, and on account of these detestable things Jehovah your God is driving them away from before you.
Two things I want to say. One, I had a similar experience the first time I used the Ouji in that when I demanded to know who the spirit was that was moving the glass, it told me to F____ off and threw the paper letters on the floor. (We made ours.) I never touched it again.
Secondly, I have never heard anyone say that God connected with them through a Ouji board. It is a dangerous and dark portal that allows unclean spirits, or demons, to communicate with us. Most people who use this device are seeking for answers in life but the spirits that come through the Ouji will lie, deceive you and misdirect you so why start? If you are a Satanist, then you need to know that Jesus said Satan is a liar and the father of lies. He said Satan ';appears as an angel of light to deceive and to destroy.'; That's who you have been worshipping.
If you need the truth, the Ouji isn't going to give you that. Satan rules hell, a place where God doesn't live, and I don't think you want to go there. It is the opposite of heaven, and once Satan has you, he will laugh at you and hate you and in hell, he will torture you. I see by your scary experiences that the possession of his spirit has already taken hold of you and now that he has you, he is starting to do his evil on you. But don't worry, I have the answer for you.
The bible says Satan argues with God for even the souls of the saints! When I got rid of my occult items, I still felt a spirit of evil so I phoned a friend who told me to check again. Sure enough, when I got rid of the book I still had, the evil spirit left and I had peace. I’ve been basking in God’s love ever since.
First, you must get rid of every object of Satan worship--witchcraft items, the book of Satan, clothes and other ritualistic items and of course the Ouji board. But don’t put them in the garbage, because it will find it’s way to someone else and you don't want some little kid becoming possessed. Instead, put all these objects into a metal garbage bin and set it on fire away from trees or the house, etc. Then when you turn your life over to God, the energy on these items won't hang on to you.
I will be praying for you Morgan. You do your job and I'll do mine. If you aren't freed by this experience get into a Christian group that believes in deliverance from Satanic spirits. They will love the challenge and work to set you free. Hope this helps.
Guy stalking me dad dont believe me?
I have some kind of stalker guy and I'm really scared, so theres this guy who lives just opposite my house and his such a creeper, you dont no how scary he looks.. he looks like his high on drugs, and he just stares and looks like a zombie (no joke) any way first I saw him starring a lot and looked at him skeptically and didnt really care, like one time i was putting the groceries away in the kitchen for my mom but the backdoor was open so he could see in and he was starring the whole time,and any time i would move so he couldnt see me, the harder he tried, i was creeped out and shut the door and he went away.. and another time i was in my bedroom with the window open and I saw him starring though my window, just blankly starring doing nothing but starring at my face.. and i was just so scared so i quickly called my dad and he went away before my dad could see.. and the worst part of all was yesterday night it was late about 11pm and me and my sister were sitting in the backyard talking about our love and sex life and lady gaga(lol) and anyway out the blues he was starring again my sister didnt notice but i saw him hiding behind a tree and out of the blues he got a camera and took about 4 photos of us, i saw a hugeee flash and said to my sister ';omg that guy his there!!'; and he ran=\im soooooooooooooooooooooooo scared of him!!!he keeps hiding behind a tree spying on me! and now im soooooooooo scared of him, i keep seeing him and stuff in my mind. i feel isolated like i have to hide in my house and keep the doors locked incase his a physco rapist. his sooooooooooooo scary.. the only way i can describe him is his face shows no emotion just blankness, he has black spikey longish hair, tanned skin (looks indian) and yea thats about it. what should i do?
and i told my dad and his like no way your probaly illusionating and i hope your not because maybe its a ghost and now im even more scared!!!!!!!! i knowww what i am seeing, i no the guys face off by heart trust me...Guy stalking me dad dont believe me?
Get a ball bat and take his knees out.Guy stalking me dad dont believe me?
You should make a police report. If something else happens, you will be able to establish a history and it would be easier to get a restraining order.
I want to start stalking you too
Not the most original answer for me, but you gotta get the cops, put a restraining order on him. What if he's a sex offender or something? And he shows all the classic symptoms of a stalker, including the photos. **shudders** Always keep your doors and windows shut. Keep your curtains closed, especially if you're changing. And if you ever have to, be ready to fight and kill. Take some self-defense or ask the cops for a pepper spray license. Sleep with a knife nearby just in case, and ask your dad to lend you a gun.
And about your dad, tell him you're frickin serious. Get him to catch him staring at you and stuff. This isn't something to be taken lightly. This is serious crap! Call the cops just to show your dad how serious you are.
VIVA LA RAZA!
OMG!! i would be freaking the **** out! hahah
but keep our doors and windows locked, try telling your dad again..and tell him your totally serious about it and that your really scared..if he doesn't stop i would call the cops
(stay safe)
wow hectic get a guy to bash the S*** out of him that could make it a lot safer if he cant walk without crutches lol..
make sure you don't give him another chance to stare at you again.. get some blinds and keep em shut and try not to go out the backyard as much as possible
xx kick his *** aye ;)
ok seriously if your telling the turth then listen to this.
1.call the police
2. tell your dad you are completely serious
3.get a picture of him looking at you then show your dad.(save it for evidense if you do ever go to court with him.
4.request a restraining order.
5.keep a weapon with you in the house.(just in case)
good luck remember your friends are your best recourses.
Maybe try and get a picture of him? that way when you tell your dad you have proof?
Thats well scary tho, keep the doors locked haha x
Pull your curtains on the windows too so he can't get any pictures of you again.
and i told my dad and his like no way your probaly illusionating and i hope your not because maybe its a ghost and now im even more scared!!!!!!!! i knowww what i am seeing, i no the guys face off by heart trust me...Guy stalking me dad dont believe me?
Get a ball bat and take his knees out.Guy stalking me dad dont believe me?
You should make a police report. If something else happens, you will be able to establish a history and it would be easier to get a restraining order.
I want to start stalking you too
Not the most original answer for me, but you gotta get the cops, put a restraining order on him. What if he's a sex offender or something? And he shows all the classic symptoms of a stalker, including the photos. **shudders** Always keep your doors and windows shut. Keep your curtains closed, especially if you're changing. And if you ever have to, be ready to fight and kill. Take some self-defense or ask the cops for a pepper spray license. Sleep with a knife nearby just in case, and ask your dad to lend you a gun.
And about your dad, tell him you're frickin serious. Get him to catch him staring at you and stuff. This isn't something to be taken lightly. This is serious crap! Call the cops just to show your dad how serious you are.
VIVA LA RAZA!
OMG!! i would be freaking the **** out! hahah
but keep our doors and windows locked, try telling your dad again..and tell him your totally serious about it and that your really scared..if he doesn't stop i would call the cops
(stay safe)
wow hectic get a guy to bash the S*** out of him that could make it a lot safer if he cant walk without crutches lol..
make sure you don't give him another chance to stare at you again.. get some blinds and keep em shut and try not to go out the backyard as much as possible
xx kick his *** aye ;)
ok seriously if your telling the turth then listen to this.
1.call the police
2. tell your dad you are completely serious
3.get a picture of him looking at you then show your dad.(save it for evidense if you do ever go to court with him.
4.request a restraining order.
5.keep a weapon with you in the house.(just in case)
good luck remember your friends are your best recourses.
Maybe try and get a picture of him? that way when you tell your dad you have proof?
Thats well scary tho, keep the doors locked haha x
Pull your curtains on the windows too so he can't get any pictures of you again.
Can someone please help me understand this guy?
ok so i have known him a little over a year. we dated, and etc. He communicated that he didn't want to care, like anyone, or even be in a relationship. He told me of how his past ex girlfriend cheated on him, even the one he intended tomarry. Months pass and i catch feelings and tell him. He admits caring about me and liking me, but saying he doesn't have really strong feelings for me. This really surprised me because of the way he acts around me and the things he says. He would offer get me a credit card, buy me a tv, mention marriage once, and a whole bunch of stuff i can't really type on here. Always referring to one day we will do this and blah blah blah.........He told me one of the reasons he is not ready for a relationship is because he still has the thought of the infidelities of his ex in his mind. I start acting attached girl crazy ( you know admitting feelings, being upset, calling to argue about feelings, jealousy of other women,etc, just alot of drama). I mean i was a handfull for a guy who communicated he didn't want drama to begin with, i didn't mean to be like this, my emotions to just took over....We have a falling out when again i let my emotions take over me, and he is like '; lets just move on with our lives';....i stop calling him, cause i had never heard him say those words, and i kinda started to heart that he really doesn't give a **** about me.
Then he keeps calling me. Once calling to see if he could visit me at my apartment..........and several times to check up on me and see how i am doing. In my head i am thinking, '; i thought you wanted to move on with your life?';, but i was so excited that he was calling me that i just wanted to enjoy the moment........i didn't want to ruin it . Anyways , seriously what do you think this guy is up to? Does he like me in a romantic type way and just needs time or am i getting my hopes up?Can someone please help me understand this guy?
If you guys are having sex than your probably just a booty call.
If not he probably just like you as a friend or likes all the attention that you give him.Can someone please help me understand this guy?
Hello, he's only doing this so he can bang you, and his ex.
I think he's playing stupid games. He wants you to want him. If you really want to be with him and want it to work, I'd lay low and act chill.
Let him come to you. Let him go crazy, like why won't she talk to me, you know?
Eventually ';come around'; to the idea of being with him, once he is actually admitting that he's ready to be with you.
Right now he's just using excuses, that whole ';have your cake and eat it too.'; Which is a stupid line, I know.
Then he keeps calling me. Once calling to see if he could visit me at my apartment..........and several times to check up on me and see how i am doing. In my head i am thinking, '; i thought you wanted to move on with your life?';, but i was so excited that he was calling me that i just wanted to enjoy the moment........i didn't want to ruin it . Anyways , seriously what do you think this guy is up to? Does he like me in a romantic type way and just needs time or am i getting my hopes up?Can someone please help me understand this guy?
If you guys are having sex than your probably just a booty call.
If not he probably just like you as a friend or likes all the attention that you give him.Can someone please help me understand this guy?
Hello, he's only doing this so he can bang you, and his ex.
I think he's playing stupid games. He wants you to want him. If you really want to be with him and want it to work, I'd lay low and act chill.
Let him come to you. Let him go crazy, like why won't she talk to me, you know?
Eventually ';come around'; to the idea of being with him, once he is actually admitting that he's ready to be with you.
Right now he's just using excuses, that whole ';have your cake and eat it too.'; Which is a stupid line, I know.
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