My best friend left me for her boyfriend. have any similar stories?

We were friends since my freshman year in high school, now I'm almost 19. We called each other every night, planned to move out together as soon as I found a job and she turned 18, etc.



Last March we both got new boyfriends. Little did I know that our friendship would start to dissolve. She was over at our boyfriends apartment every day and night (our boyfriends are friends lol). She new that we weren't getting to see each other as much and said she felt bad. But she continued.



Our boyfriends stopped having their apartment together and moved back in with their parents temporarily over the summer (last year). We weren't texting very much anymore.



She started smoking weed all the time, and I needed to find a job - so it's not like I was going to do that.



By August, her 18th birthday approached and she talked to me about moving together but I said we shouldn't since she started smoking cigarettes and she wanted to smoke inside (when I don't smoke at all!). and I knew her boyfriend wanted to move in with her. They were glued to each other.



So in september I got lost and couldn't find a bus to get back home (she had her boyfriend pick me up - just him- she was at work) and we were talking and I asked how he was and he said he was getting ready to move the furniture and stuff into the apartment. And I was like ';oh what apartment?'; and he looked shocked and said that he and my ';best friend'; were moving in together in like a week! I didn't mind, I was just shocked because she didn't tell me anything! and when I texted her asking about it she said she wanted to tell me and was upset that her boyfriend accidentally told me.



Then a month later she starts talking to me asking if my tattoo hurt too much when I got it. I said it didn't hurt an insane amount but it definitely hurt. I said why are you getting one? and she said yes and I was like ';oh I want to come!'; she had been there when I got mine and I said (when we were still close) that I totally had to go with her for hers. She said ';in five minutes!'; I was like X_X! I couldn't believe it. I was like why didn't you tell me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and she just said she thought I would be too busy.



Then in December I gave her this neat thing that lights up and creates bubbles in water (kind of like a late housewarming gift) and we hugged (we never hug) and the next day I asked if she set it up yet and she said she was too busy. That's the last I've talked to her. So yes its been about a month and a half.



During the span of time of our dissolving friendship I went through a series of depressions that would sometimes last a couple days. I would burst into tears at a sudden thought of her, and it caused me a great deal of pain.



It was like waking up with your arm or leg amputated and you don't know why.



Do you have any helpful comments or stories?



I'm trying to purge her out of my life. That's why I saw her in the december of last year, to get rid of my baggage and not deal with it in the new year.



Thanks for readingMy best friend left me for her boyfriend. have any similar stories?
It sounds like you two are just growing apart. Different interests, different life-paths. We don't always stay friends with our friends from High School. I had the same best friend from Kindergarten though High School graduation. After that we kept in touch a little bit, but I honestly haven't spoken to him in probably 3 or 4 years.



It can be frustrating or hurtful, but it's not inherently bad. You don't have to dislike her if your growing apart, just accept that that's the way things are sometimes.



If you REALLY want to remain close, verbalize this to her. Tell her how you feel in a kind and understanding way. Tell her that you recognize your drifting apart, and that if it were up to you that would not happen. The reality is that it may not be up to you, but if you approach it calmly and rationally I'm sure she will understand where you're coming from. Good luck!