Very serious- I have recently seperated from my wife?

More to the point she has left and Im so confused as to why. Maybe its another man, I dont think so. But its the only thing that makes sense as her reasons are petty stuff. Anyway Im not asking why or what do I do. Shes got to a point where Im just gonna accept it. But everyday is such a struggle. I have no energy and I can think of nothing else but my wife. I love her so much although she has been so hurtful I wonder why. I need to move on and get on with my life. Im sure theres millions who have had this kind of pain so can anyone give me good advice. I know a lot of you will say get out and about with friends, try to take your mind of it with distractions. Good answers but before I can do that I need more deep answers. How do I use inner strength and self protection to rid myself of these self indulgent feelings of worthlessness brought on by this cruel person who has caused me such pain. So that I can go out with friends and have a nice evening and just move on basically.Very serious- I have recently seperated from my wife?
Player you need some time to reflect on things before going out. When you get your mind right then you go out and move on with your life. This just might be a blessing in disguise. Best of luck to you!Very serious- I have recently seperated from my wife?
Try counseling that might help you
Get a new chick man and you'll transition much better! Trust me the attention will do wonders for your self-esteem, ego, and pride!
On my 2 divorces I went out and got completely drunk, however I'm older now and i wouldn't advise that for anybody. The next step i took was counseling to help me deal with the feelings of abandonment and worthlessness, the counseling was awesome, especially if you get a counselor who knows what they're doing. Also go ahead and get out with family and friends, it may be rough at first, but it gets easier as time goes by. Don't let this woman ruin your life...live it to the fullest. Like Tim McGraw sings ';Live like you were dying';.
You WILL get past these angry feelings. Do all of the things you KNOW you have available to you....and VENT like crazy!!!! It will pass....but YOU must LET it go...when you are ready to move forward. Good luck and God bless!
You are your worst critic. Its your '; little voices'; that are hard to control and get over. Wake up every morning and through out the whole day repeat to yourself ';I am a great person'; How stupid does that sound , right? Wrong! Its what you accustomed your mind to think and in order for you to change your train of though you must be repetitious with other things, positive believes.
First of all my heart goes out to you there are things in this world that we have know control over. When it comes to love we can love someone but that person has got to love you just as much as you love them. How do you get the strength has to come from inside of you, one thing i know for sure there is man that can heal a broken heart. You need to to let this person go in side of your heart and than you will be able to move on. If not they will just be there taking up space and causing you a great deal of pain. Let go.



Best of luck
You said it yourself, ';inner strength and self protection.';

You train yourself by brute force into a different thinking pattern. You think hard about what you really do believe and want -- the positive things, your goal. And then when you catch yourself pining or moping you stop, you say no -- that's all water under the bridge now; and you briefly let yourself be sad about what is gone. And then carefully, attentively, meaningfully affirm your true beliefs and goals instead of continuing the moping.



That's actually what the normal process is, only sped up with will. Long enough, and sincerely enough, and eventually at the thought of your pain, your mind just skips forward to release and affirmations.
You know this is going to sound really nasty (especially coming from a not-so-perfect Christian like me), but I'll tell you what used to work for me. I was dumped a few times in my youth and the times that I was not told why just confused me. (later I realised it was infidelity on their side). I used to daily condition myself (my brain), it's called auto-suggestion. I reminded myself daily of all the qualities I did not like in my ex-partner, and it didn't take long before I was praying to God and thanking Him for sparing me a miserable future with the sod, thereby opening the way for me to meet someone WAY better, (my husband is truly the Jackpot, I swear it)!
If she feels that way, just let her go. You can't make others believe or feel as you do - so you're better off without her. You're just too close to her now to see that.
not knowing why someone left would be frustrating, but it's pretty childish for her not to give a real answer so you can move on, but time will heal, and probably show you things work out for the best. venting is always good, keep your friends close.
I feel your pain. Have gone through the exact same thing only a few months ago. I felt like my whole world was crashing down around me, but to be honest... its getting easier..only slightly though. I guess my advice is... wait a few months... without talking to her... and then maybe talk to her again and tell her you need honest answers to get closure from it all. Hopefully the time apart will give her the opportunity to tell you the truth about some things. Keep in mind you may never hear the things you want to hear.. but you need to make a conscious effort to move forward after you've spoken to her. Best of luck. x