im just scared its going to be ';out of sight, out of mind kinda thing :(';
here is the story.
My bf turned 22 and i guess had a reality check. We were dating for 2 years and he was telling me how he feels old etc.
then BOOM..we broke up but it was bitter sweet.
He tells me how much he loves me and how hard it is and how amazing i am and how much he wishes he was 25 so he could marry me right now etc.
but his mind is made up aboutthe breakup and even though i tried talking about it he gets mad. so i have to leave it
should i just leave him and give himhis space and let him figure things out?
Its so tough. I saw him 2 weeks ago (we broke up on feb 1st) and he cant stop hugging me and treating me like his gf again when we see each other...open my door, kiss my hands, my nose etc.
We are also both in ourr 4th year of university as well
Honestly, the relationship was so mature and great. Even he admitted that when he was talking about it..sad ofcourse.
We hvant talked since Valentines day and its hard because we talked everyday for a 2 years.But that was his choice. I alwtas told him no pressure if he doenst have the time to text or call but for 2 years he always texted me ';goodnight love';.. I know he still loves me and still cares. The last 2 times i saw him he couldnt let go of me and couldnt stop telling me that yet didnt want to talk about why he wants this.
ok, so its been a month and he saw my a university the other day and i waved to him...he came up to me and hugged me for the longest time and kissed my forehead. I was confused!! he sent me a msg later that night saying ti was good to see me and that he enjoyed the hug he also said that if we had started dating when we were 24/25 i would have been the one. %26amp; that right now he needs to figure himself out first.
i replied and i agreed with him that he needs to figure things out
and that 24/25 thing doesnt matter as you cannot time things like that.
I wished him luck in his studies and everything
do you think i handled it well?!?!?!
ok its been about a month and half since the break up. I saw him on the bus at university on friday and said hi to him he grabbed me adn hugged me adn kissed my forehead. When we were tlaking he kept saying how excited he is his car is running and kept asking me what im doing this weekend. He was making fun of me sometimes too %26amp; hugged me. You know the usual stuff when we were dating. He seemed really happy to see me though, Then as he was getting off the bus he said that if him and his friend go out this weekend that i shoul come out with them. I dont think they ended up going out but im really confused as to waht he wants. Clearly he still misses me but isnt really doing anything :S But, its a good feeling to know he's still so nice you know. Im just kinda torn between fully focusing on moving on or giving it time. Moving on would be awkward though since the whole relationship up until that point was filled wiht fun and laughter :)Over 20 please:) Your mature advice would be so great. This is kind of long, sorry:)?
Wow. I really don't envy your position right now. He's not being fair to your feelings right now at all. It's worse because he acts like you're still together each time you two randomly bump into each other. And it's not a good sign if he's not willing to talk to you about why he made the choice to break up. And the whole thing about wishing that he had met you when he was 24/25 is not a good enough reason. What is it that he needs to work through?
As hard as it may be, the next time you see him and he tries to hug you, make it quick and pull away. Just say 'I know that you don't want to talk about everything that's happened, but I can't pretend like everything is normal every time we run into each other. It hurts, because on one hand you don't want to be with me, but on the other you act like we're still together every time we run into each other. It's confusing. I don't want to lose you, but if you're really serious about being away from me while figuring out your life, this[kissing/cuddling/etc.] has to stop for now. Because I just can't take the uncertainty.'
I would stop the intimate hugs and the like, because it's hurting you. Let him go for now, because you don't deserve to be the 'back burner'
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