Over 20 please. Would love your mature advice. Sorry this is kind of long.?

should i try to see him more or actually let him figure things out and continue to give him complete space

im just scared its going to be ';out of sight, out of mind kinda thing :(';

here is the story.



My bf turned 22 and i guess had a reality check. We were dating for 2 years and he was telling me how he feels old etc.

then BOOM..we broke up but it was bitter sweet.

He tells me how much he loves me and how hard it is and how amazing i am and how much he wishes he was 25 so he could marry me right now etc.

but his mind is made up aboutthe breakup and even though i tried talking about it he gets mad. so i have to leave it

should i just leave him and give himhis space and let him figure things out?

Its so tough. I saw him 2 weeks ago (we broke up on feb 1st) and he cant stop hugging me and treating me like his gf again when we see each other...open my door, kiss my hands, my nose etc.

We are also both in ourr 4th year of university as well

Honestly, the relationship was so mature and great. Even he admitted that when he was talking about it..sad ofcourse.

We hvant talked since Valentines day and its hard because we talked everyday for a 2 years.But that was his choice. I alwtas told him no pressure if he doenst have the time to text or call but for 2 years he always texted me ';goodnight love';.. I know he still loves me and still cares. The last 2 times i saw him he couldnt let go of me and couldnt stop telling me that yet didnt want to talk about why he wants this.





ok, so its been a month and he saw my a university the other day and i waved to him...he came up to me and hugged me for the longest time and kissed my forehead. I was confused!! he sent me a msg later that night saying ti was good to see me and that he enjoyed the hug he also said that if we had started dating when we were 24/25 i would have been the one. %26amp; that right now he needs to figure himself out first.



i replied and i agreed with him that he needs to figure things out

and that 24/25 thing doesnt matter as you cannot time things like that.

I wished him luck in his studies and everything



do you think i handled it well?!?!?!





ok its been about a month and half since the break up. I saw him on the bus at university on friday and said hi to him he grabbed me adn hugged me adn kissed my forehead. When we were tlaking he kept saying how excited he is his car is running and kept asking me what im doing this weekend. He was making fun of me sometimes too %26amp; hugged me. You know the usual stuff when we were dating. He seemed really happy to see me though, Then as he was getting off the bus he said that if him and his friend go out this weekend that i shoul come out with them. I dont think they ended up going out but im really confused as to waht he wants. Clearly he still misses me but isnt really doing anything :S But, its a good feeling to know he's still so nice you know. Im just kinda torn between fully focusing on moving on or giving it time. Moving on would be awkward though since the whole relationship up until that point was filled wiht fun and laughter :)Over 20 please. Would love your mature advice. Sorry this is kind of long.?
Awh thats so sweet. It sounds like he doesnt really want to move on... he seems to be kinda scared of commitment or something. was he hurt in the past? I think right now he's just worried about the future... I know my bf said he wants to marry me but like in 5 years or something from now... your boyfriend is prob just scared of the whole settling down thing. Id say just try and leave it for now... he has to think things through. During this time keep yourself busy, go out with the girls, focus on your school work. I know this may seem impossible. You just have to wait like at least 2 weeks, then go back to him and say ';Hi hun. Do you want to meet up for a chat or something? Coffee?'; something like that and then you can go over all these feelings. cuz he's left you wondering is there hope? Ask him to put it straight... ask him how do you feel or what?Over 20 please. Would love your mature advice. Sorry this is kind of long.?
Sweet:

Hi there hon. I'm 31. :) Anywho, I see you say that this guy was adamant about the break up %26amp; has even gotten mad about you pushing a possible ';back together?'; Hrmmm...

The sweetness on his part when he is bumping into you is all fine %26amp; nice if you didn't have a heart. But you do %26amp; yours is breaking. Mix signals after a break up are heart wrenching %26amp; cruel. Seems to me he wants all your fun %26amp; laughter without the commitment, which can be fine, ONCE you've gotten OVER him. Him doting on you %26amp; planting little kisses all over you isn't going to take the hurt away from the break-up. All it's going to do is continue to cause you to hang on %26amp; give him what he wants. You need to make youself unavailable to him for a good amount of time until your head (and your heart!) are clear on this whole mess. If you can't avoid bumping into him, make damn sure you keep him at arms length when you do; if he gets defensive, just be frank %26amp; tell him it's confusing %26amp; hurtful to you when he gets all intimate like that and you need that physical space to help yourslef move on. He'll either respect your wishes %26amp; back off nicely, realize he was a jerk %26amp; doesn't want to be without you, or be a total dick %26amp; get defensive and if thats his response, you are far better off without him. Much luck, my dear! Hope I have helped!