What should I do about disrespectful girl in my college class?

This is kind of a long story so i apologize right off.



I have been in technical college for a full TWO weeks now... but theres this girl that sits in front of me. When she isnt sleeping in class, she is sighing and making negative comments constantly about how boring the class is or how stupid this is, or shes talking really bad about the girls that sit in front of her. Her constant negative attitude is affecting those around her. She is always talking about how she loves to fight and about how her and all her friends and cousins pack into cars and go jump girls and about how she has guns at home and cant wait to use em on somebody. she's a really stupid, violent, ghetto girl. she cant speak proper english or retain information in class.

Well I am very studious. I pay a lot of attention, I am always early to class and I know everything thats going on and i really try to help her out since she doesnt pay attention. so anyways, me and her were on OK terms until thursday when some big stupid drama came up about me and my friend while I wasnt even in the room. (this is really stupid)

Apparently when we went into computer lab, i put my backpack down and went to the bathroom and the girl i eat lunch with and take smoke breaks with put her stuff beside me. another girl in the class moved her stuff... she was like ok thats fine, and moved her stuff over and went to the financial aid office.

well i come back in the room and the attitude girl is like ';something is wrong with your booty buddy'; in a very aggressive tone. i said ';my BOOTY buddy? WTF are you talkin about?'; so she explained to me how the girl moved her stuff to sit next to her friends but thought that my friend left because she was mad. but she just kept sayin BOOTY buddy over and over again, being very insulting. so she got up and moved to sit next to her FRIEND, but if my friend wants to sit next to me, its a reason for insulting us?

now mind you, i am NOT a closed mouth, weak kind of person. i will fight when it comes down to it, but i paid thousands and thousands of dollars for this school. it took everything in me not to say whats on my mind or tell her off, but she doesnt get in arguements, she gets into physical fights.



anyways, my dilema here is what should i do? this girls behavior is not going to improve over time. its only 2 weeks into it and already she is causing such a disturbance for me and others. i really dont want her aggression to be focused on me because i KNOW she will follow me off campus and act like a ghetto hoe. i have written an anonymous email to my instructor in which i did not name any names or specific instances so that i cant be identified, but i didnt send it because i really dont want to cause problems..



so do you have any advice on what i should do?

other than switch seats because our class is jam packed full and theres nowhere to move to. I'm stuck sitting next to her or behind her in every class.

keep in mind she is a violent aggressive person and i cant say anything to her about it without it causing a physical confrontation. (we cant talk this out woman to woman in other words) shes a moronWhat should I do about disrespectful girl in my college class?
Pretty damn sad, isn't it? It makes you wonder what shes doing there in the first place because shes obviously not there to learn and doesn't belong in an environment conducive to learning.



Unfortunately, this kind of thing is endemic across the country now. Look at whats happening in Philadelphia's public schools.You mentioned ';I paid thousands and thousands of dollars for this school.'; I think that under the circumstances, you have a very good case for getting every dime that you paid back. If you don't want to cause a scene, simply write a letter to the whoever is highest up that you can contact and let them know that you are withdrawing from the school, give the reason why (don't mention names if you don't want to), explain that you cant learn under such conditions, and politely but firmly ask that your tuition be refunded. If this does not work, seek legal help to get your tuition [perhaps more?] refunded. No classroom environment is going to be perfect, but this goes way out of bounds in terms of what is acceptable. The onus is on the 'school' in this matter, not you.

Then hopefully, you can find a better school to get your training/education from.

Best of luck for your future success.



Postscript: Didnt know about your situation. I hope it didnt come across like I was just trying to throw out an easy fix; I wasnt. Once again, best of luck with your future success. You sound like you've got a good head on your shoulders.What should I do about disrespectful girl in my college class?
Either you are going to have to have the courage to go to your instructor (and an anonymous letter will be ignored) or you just ignore the woman. That's your choice.
Is there any way you can drop this class and retake it a future time? Is this girl in any of your other classes? I know it is really hard but, I would suggest you hold off sending the letter to your instructor and ride it out. Just be cool and don't engage her in way. If she starts making comments, just nod your head and stare off in another direction. I would say try and be nice to her but she sounds like someone who is always looking for a fight so the best thing is to try as hard as you can not engage her. Maybe you can get someone else besides you to complain about her? if others feel the same and are willing to file a complaint?
Just speak UP! I know that may sound like either a bad idea or you think I don't get it. Seriously look at it like this one of two things, she either is only doing it because she is a bully and as soon as someone speaks up you'll find her bark is worse than her bite. Or if she is really STUPID enough to do something violent to anyone she was DUMB enough to broadcast it to a roomful of people. You have so many witnesses that she was threatening people in the class. Seriously people like this I feel if you say it to them firmly and in the right way they will shut up. Also you may spark the rest of the class to say something to her too. Tell her to grow up! Goodness!

File a formal complaint to security or the administrative office. If she is causing a hostile environment she will be removed. There have been too many shootings on school campuses for the school not to take her hostile behavior seriously. You'll find that professors don't get involved in these things, you have to take it over their head.



If you do speak up do so in class in front of everyone so when she is dumb enough to threaten you remind her that there are witnesses and just file charges against her.
You don't want to ';cause problems?'; What do you think you have NOW? This idiot b*tch needs to be removed from the class and the school, that teacher needs to be replaced also as at that level the teachers need to be totally aware of these social dynamics and take aggressive steps to rectify them. You need to go to the dean or someone in charge and tell everything you wrote here, if you continue to live in fear of this bully it will def get worse and ruin your entire education and jeopardize your time in this class.
You go to the Dean of Students. It is that persons responsibility to figure it out. It is their job, not yours, to make sure student life is acceptable. If they cannot offer you a good solution to your needs then you move up to the office of the President of your College. If that doesn't work you go to the President of the University (if you have one). That girl is probably on the tax payers' dime and she has no intention of utilizing her opportunity. She should be cited and removed from the campus if your institution is any kind of serious place. Furthermore, start applying to other schools you can transfer into next semester.
';i really try to help her out since she doesnt pay attention';



Problem #1: Interacting with the wild animal.



By your admission, this girl is a worthless piece of sub-human trash, an orc, if you will. Your first mistake was making eye contact. The more interaction you have with people like that the more they will suck you into their craziness; their natural state is constant boredom so they try to turn their life into a non-stop Jerry Springer show. And why were you trying to help her anyway? I don't know if you were trying to be Christian or whatever, but I'm pretty sure that when Jesus said ';love thy enemy';, he didn't mean that you should actually help them, or talk to them. I think it was just a nicer way of saying ';know thy enemy';.



In the future, have as little to do with this person as possible. The less you cross their path, the less aggravation you suffer. Unless you have reason to believe the professor may be sympathetic to this person, just tell them straight up, ';This person is a bad apple, watch out for them.'; Just try to survive this class without further hassle, and chances are you'll never see her again.
HA! I think you might sit somewhere else where she wont bug you at the first place i think its your fault for sitting in the same place and near her knowing that she ws like that and plus her attitude that bothered you ... Just sit somewhere else and ignore her .. maybe she wants attention cause nobody pays attention to her ... so dont get involved anymore .. either you trade seats or get out of that class and take it later .. It all depends on you