I need advice on how to handle this guy...i think hes feeding me bs?

ok soo i know how this is going to sound. but heres the short story. i like a guy. he has a girlfriend. he acts like he is interested. always tells me hes going to break up with her. and lately hes been texting me things like oh you should send me a pic. i told him that i wouldnt send him anything because he has a gf and even though i might want to (i never would thats just stupid) i wont because hes being shitty to his girl. i told him if hes not happy then let it go.



heres the backgroung info. i really fell hard for this guy 3 years ago. we hooked up a few times but never dated. hes grown up a lot since then and we recently worked together which is how we became close friends. i just broke up with my boy friend because i felt it was wrong because of this emotional attachment i have for someone else. i feel like if this guy really liked me he would have broken up with his girl and tried to start something with me. but lately i just feel like i am a booty call. and the reason its complicated is because he and i are friends. so its awkward for him to be like oh send me a pic itll give me ';sweet dreams'; etc. i have not slept with him since that time years ago and i would never do anything with him while he has a gf. i know i should let it go and move on and its not like im sitting around waiting for him. (ok i kinda am) but i mean i hang out with other guys and go out etc. and its like any time i put up a post on facebook that im going out i get a message from him like be careful or sleep good or drink some for me etc.



sooo my question is...do i wait til he says something inappropriate again to be like look i like you you know this but we are friends and as long as you have a gf you need to respect me, her and yourself and stop texting me this bullshit. be a man and amke up your mind



or should i just not text him back unless it has to do with work or just random stuff. i feel like if i say to stop texting me i will sound psycho lol



what should i say? or should i say anything at all? his gf thinks they have this perfect relationship but im starting to think im prob not the only girl hes texting asking for a picture.I need advice on how to handle this guy...i think hes feeding me bs?
You need to draw the line with him. Tell him that as long as the two of you are just friends (meaning that he has a GF), then he shouldn't be sending you any flirty or suggestive texts. Tell him it's wrong and that you would want someone to respect you enough to say the same thing if you were the GF in this scenario.



Now, you have to realize something else. I bet you're sitting there saying that she's just not right for him and that's why he's doing this. But, fast forward. Suppose you and he are in a relationship, and he starts contacting one of his other past flings. He's already showing you that he's not the most faithful person around...so what makes you think he wouldn't do it to you too if you were in a relationship with him? Some food for thought...



Tell him if he's willing to break up with her and start something with you, then he can send you all the flirty texts he wants...but until then it's off limits. Anything he sends you that asks for a picture or is a little off color, don't respond. Eventually, he'll get the message.



I don't think you should say anything to his current GF. That puts you in the middle, everyone gets mad at you for trying to do a noble thing, and you end up the loser in the end. Any problems in his relationship are between him and his GF. Don't get involved in that.



But, I would make sure you're walking into this with both eyes open. He doesn't sound like the most caring or respectful guy, and if he's that way with his current GF, he'll probably be like that with you as his GF as well.I need advice on how to handle this guy...i think hes feeding me bs?
Plain and simple...If he was interested in you, he would be with you.

and to be honest, he doesn't care about her either, if he would, he wouldn't be messing with you or anyone else...he is just selfish.

You should move on to greater things...why do you want to wait for someone who drags that much luggage? if he left her...then you will be dealing with his feelings for what he left behind, does he lover, does he misses her, does he call her and all that unnecessary drama.

Move on!!...do not get in to a new relationship so soon...at least till you heal and there is no feelings of him shadowing you.

You need to enjoy life, treat each day like a new beginning...do things for yourself, find happiness in friends, family and other things that give you joy, life is to short to be sitting around waiting for some loser. Good luck!