Whats your advice...?

I split up with my girlfriend after a very short 'relationship' (not sure you can really call it that) after just 7 weeks. She finished it under the terms that she wasnt ready for a relationship. She did however say how much of a 'perfect boyfriend' I was. It was hard to hear and it has been difficult to accept it the last couple of weeks, as I really really liked her (and deep down inside I still do - I cant just get rid of my feelings with the click of a finger) When I initially made the first move, it was very hard for me, as I had never asked anyone out 'properly' before! Im 22 and she is 27. We are friends now, and Im happy with that, as I said to her at the time we split, I wouldnt want to lose her altogether! So now, we are the same as before (just without the intimate things)...we still have fun and go out and about!



Now heres where I need your advice, there is this guy who must be in his early 40s, who has started working alongside me and her. He is friendly and attractive to the female eye. When ever someone mentions his name, she smiles, rolls her eyes and stuff...I have this horrible gut feeling that something is going to happen here. And I know, because we are not together, we are both free to do what we please, but I just really hope that it doesnt happen right in front of my eyes! I want to try and cut it out my mind, but im struggling to do so. I think what will affect me is if something does happen, its the fact she has told me she is not ready for a relationship but the feeling I have is that she could quite happily go for it. I would still want to be friends, but It would be so hard to have to work with her knowing that someone else I work with, is going out with her and sleeping with her! Any advice on how to approach this possibilty?Whats your advice...?
You are all working in the same place and so it's going to be very hard on you if she does get involved with that man. I don't know what her problem is but getting involved with co-workers is never a good thing. And if she gets involved with that man then I say that she doesn't care whom she hurts. She knows how you feel about her. And for her to date someone else that you work with would be cruel and you don't deserve that. There are enough guys out there that she doesn't have to get involved with her co-workers. I think the best thing for you to do is to move on and get her out of your life. She will only hurt you more if you stay friends' with her. She doesn't even deserve your friendship.Whats your advice...?
Here's the fact of the matter, she is probably going to find someone else and be with them in some capacity. She may just sleep with them or she may start a relationship with them. It is going to be really hard to face, but you are going to have to get over it.



You are going to have to sort your stuff out and move on. It will not be quick if you really liked her, but it will happen. The absolute best thing you can do is to make yourself happy. You need someone new who can care about you the way you deserve to be cared about.



It will suck really bad when you think about her with someone else so try really hard not to. Instead try to think of all of the great opportunities you have now, and how you can pursue them. Never forget that you are worth it.