How do I talk to my roommate about this attitude?

I've had many problems with my roommates...I live with a 48 year old and her 2 daughters, ages 19 and 25. A third daughter is overseas in the military, bless her. The daughter oversees has a 2 year old son, so when she deployed, the 25 year old came to live with us in her place, as she also has a 2 year old son and her husband is also deployed. The 25 year old was to help watch both kids so her mother could go back to working evenings/nights, where she makes the most money.



We rent a townhome, and it has a driveway that can fit 2 cars, although one car blocks the sidewalk (illegal in our neighbourhood), and sometimes sticks out in the street. The 48 year old convinced me upon move in that she and her daughter needed the driveway because of the baby. We have limited parking spaces on the actual street the townhome is on; if those are full, we have to park along the cross street, which isn't a far walk and a safe neighbourhood. I didn't mind, I understand.



Well, the other day they asked my boyfriend to move his car from a parking space on our street. He helps contribute to the house financially, although doesn't officially live there. He also only stays over a couple nights a week, 3 max, but usually 2. He still splits utilities and gives some rent money. She told him ';someone should speak to you about manners; you should move your car so my pregnant daughter can have the space, you can park along the curb.'; Oh yeah, the 25 year old is also 6 weeks pregnant. What tee'd me off about that comment was, why doesn't the 48 year old give up the driveway? She insists on parking in it even though she no longer has to take the kids anywhere in her car! I'd think she should give up the driveway; I know she gets home late, but I do too, and I still walk from the cross street when I have to. Additionally, I had thought the whole reason she needed the driveway was for the kid, to make it easier. If I would have known it was simply because she didn't want to walk from the street, I would have suggested a rotating system for being able to park in the driveway. We are all healthy adults.



I don't know if I should say anything to her about this. Luckily, she hasn't asked me to move my car, perhaps because knows I won't move it. But I don't appreciate her telling my boyfriend, rather harshly, that he doesn't have manners because he didn't give up his space for her daughter, and that he should have to get out and move his car whenever he visits. Worse off, she mentioned this stuff to him at the bar she works at (I work there too part time, he goes there regularly), in front of all our collegues and his friends.



I do understand the 25 year old has 2 toddlers, and is pregnant, and she should get the space. I just don't think it should be expected that we move our cars if we happen to be lucky enough to get a space, when the 48 year old is perfectly healthy and has no reason at all to park in the driveway anymore.How do I talk to my roommate about this attitude?
You are definately right in this situation. If she rarely uses the car with the kids then there is no need for her to complain he isnt moving his car if she isnt.



You guys are roomates and she has 2 kids. When it comes down to it you shouldnt be expected to compensate for her or her tribe at all. She has 2 kids there (i had a little difficulty with the ammount of kids/grandkids) but it sounds like a tribe lol.

If she mentions it again you could probably just mention that she has a fine spot she can move her car from especially since she doesnt need it for the baby anymore.



She moved in (is her name on the lease?) if not then she is in really no position to argue, especially since she is squeezing so many ppl into one small house.How do I talk to my roommate about this attitude?
Look at this from a different perspective. Pretend you're a customer at the bar and you just heard the bartender say this to a customer (which your boyfriend is). Who looks like the fool? That's right, she does. I just wish her boss heard her say it.



Don't fret over this. She was probably having a bad day. She inappropriately vented. But she embarrassed herself, not your boyfriend.



If everything else is going well between you and your roommates, I would not pursue this issue. Let her have the spot in the driveway. Sometimes you need to humor people a bit in order to keep your own life smooth and peaceful. We do this all the time with co-workers, spouses, bosses, neighbors, parents, grandparents, siblings, etc.



Peace Out
That is way too many babies and pregnancies and with her attitude you need to evict them and find roommates who aren't pregnant with kids and demanding and rude.
Why not get an apartment/house with your bf? Then you can still remain friends with all of them...you never even have to bring this up.
don't let this person run all over you. if it continues, kick him out. i realize the situation,but, you have limits and just follow what your brain says.
Without a doubt you are right in this situation, sometimes people do not have the sense that they were born with and some even have a sense of entitlement handed down to them from who knows who. Yet this is such a ridiculous situation that I would just let it go and perhaps forgive but NEVER forget! This is the type of woman who has no class and zero etiquette and should be handled as such with little to no words spoken to.

Let it go this time but!! The next time she speaks to your bf like that take her aside and tell her in no uncertain terms that if she has anything to say to your BF that she needs to come to you.

Best of luck!