In an argument with your significant other, what should you do?

My fiance and I got in a very heated argument this morning. He have arguments now and then, but this was a bad one.



I get to where when he or I start saying things that are cruel, mean, or down right uncalled for, I want the fight to stop. I want to cool off before saying something I regret. He never wants to stop, he just wants to finish yelling whatever comes across his mind.



Is that wrong of me to do?

If not, how can I get him to stop doing that?



I think that's the better idea rather than making things worse, so that if we have a problem, we can calmly work it out later. He doesn't understand that and gets really aggressive. He used to do that, but over the past year (before I got pregnant of course), he just changed. He wants to yell, he wants to fight. When I ask him if he wants to move out, he doesn't want to.



He left for work a few hours ago, but I'm really upset still. I was crying, still kind of am. We haven't gotten to work things out. I slapped him, and he slapped me back. He apologized for slapping me, but not for any of the other things. I didn't apologize. He had to leave for work, and I told him that I'd have his stuff packed so he can move out.



The thing is, I really don't want him to move out. I want our problems to be fixed, and to stop this from happening again. Other than counseling, what can I do?In an argument with your significant other, what should you do?
Well first you are very hormonal and that is having a huge effect on you.

But no one takes into account what is going on with Daddy-to-be, he's going through some stuff too, unfortunately most people never give this a thought. So I am going to illuminate you on a few things before I give advise



Daddy's-To-Be

1) Must deal with our hormonal changes

2) They suffer even More doubts about their ability to be a good parent then women

3) They have added financial burdens generally

4) They are expected to be supportive even when they have had a really bad day and just want to be given a little support

5) They have to deal with the fact they are no longer the only one in your life anymore

6) They deal with a lack of attention from their mates who are now self absorbed with the child they carry

8) No one seems to notice their needs or their fears about the up coming birth

9) They wonder if they will be able to provide for a child's future

10) And Believe it or not they are as much an emotional basket case as you!



When he gets home, run him a bath, give him a drink, make a candle lit dinner, listen to him, focus on how all of this is effecting him, LISTEN don't talk or contradict (he is as entitled to his feelings and opinions as you are). Then when he is done, apologize for the morning, tell him how you feel about the hurtful things you BOTH said and how the next time you hope you will both be able to walk away for a few moments.

Your both young and you both need to learn the art of listening and respecting what the other saysIn an argument with your significant other, what should you do?
Congradulations, you are about to marry an **%26amp;%26amp;^^ and an abusive inconsiderate jerk. If he has the nerve to hit you once he will do it again and again. Secondly, verbal abuse is still abuse. I would tell him the wedding is off untill he gets his stuff together because you will not tolerate abuse in any form.
Well I think you all should definitely talk. Some guys just like to yell. Even though he yells and says things to hurt you, you might just have to not take it so hard and give it back to him. Later, you guys can talk when he is not so heated.
You should talk to him and let him know how you work with your emotions. Try not to fight about little things, but if you do, apologize and allow him to do the same. Ask him, ';Would you rather live life like this, or be happy?'; Don't allow him to make you feel bad about yourself or hit you. He has no right putting his hands on you and neither do you. Try to make it work for your child.