She makes bad business decisions on the fly thinking the next big thing is going to make her so much happier.
Like buying a new house, moving to a retirement community and so on.
The thing is I can not get it in her mind that if she does move, her new house is going to be instantly trashed and she moves all of her clutter from one house to another.
We have a 2 sheds full of random stuff. One of them I have cleared out, the other is 5 ft deep with clutter.
Some examples:
She cant throw away books, she reads them once and then has to keep them for some reason.
I found fabric in a box that has been there for over 10 years, she insists on keeping it, and how she has a ';hobby box'; somewhere, or she could give it to her sister (who see sees a few times a year)
We cleaned her room and found over 40 random note pads, the kind you get free in the mail...
To me its like a sickness, your not going to be happy if you part with it, but you cant be happy when you cant even walk through your room.
I feel so bad for her being unhappy, if I ransack the house and clean it, she will probably get really mad at me, on the other hand getting her to set aside the time to clean is like pulling teeth....
How can I help my mom?Understanding the mind of a clutter bug?
Have you seen the show ';Hoarders';? It sounds like that is what is going on. At least on some level, it is a psychological condition and she might need treatment.Understanding the mind of a clutter bug?
We live in such a beautiful world, such a precious world yet for most (generic society)we seem to focus on the?
We live in such a beautiful world, such a precious world yet for most (generic society)we seem to focus on the negative. We get sucked in to the evil things in life such as the world of superficiality, materialism and the need to be something more.
I encourage people to embrace life and not focus on the negative, but all the wonderful positive things that are going on in our world. We need to remember that the only way to leave is in peace and to promote it. I often hear people say I alone can not change the world. Yes you can. If every person out there has the mentality yes i can change the world, than indeed the world would be a better place.
Being a hippy is so much more than dancing around bare foot with flowers in your hair. It's a way of life. You don't choose to be a hippy, the life chooses you. You cannot help the way you think and feel, you cannot help your mentality. It finds you, and you can't ignore it. The world needs you. The world relys on you. Without you and your mentality, without you there to spread your love and positivity the world would be dark place. Spread your love, spread the message of positivity.
I am still quite young and I see people around me. So immersed in their material possessions and popularity. I would like to send this message out to the younger generation who feel it in their heart, but don't know what to do about it. I spoke to a girl a couple of days ago, and she was saying that it is extremely difficult to be herself because she is afraid people will ridicule her if she chooses to embrace her spirituality. We need to let the younger generation know that we encourage you to be yourself and stick to your beliefs and morals. Be everything you want to be.
Peace %26amp; Love
Thilini
Hippies don't shower --- I am a hippie so I'd know.
i say you just clean it out. we are in our 3rd house and we still have boxes of stuff from the 1st house.we have a shed full of junk, and like half the garage just had clutter.plus since weve been in this house there has been more clutter build-up. well ive been cleaning out the garage and it looks awesome.my mom was soo happy when i did. every week i would just throw stuff away in the trash and in about 3 months i cleaned out almost all of it.
Some people form an attachment to material possessions or give it a greater value then what it is worth...For example...They will say to themselves when examining an object..';Maybe this ';example item'; will one day be worth lots of money so I should hang on to it. ';
I actually used to do the same thing...Not to the extent I didn't have floor space but I finally realized I was keeping to many useless objects. I threw away and gave away about 99% of what I had. Anything that did not serve a purpose got the boot. For instance...I ended up just keeping the bed...2 pairs of shoes...the computer...only the cloths I wear regularly. And a chair. lol
Can't take anything with us when we die anyways.
Unless her house is making her unhealthy (attracting mice, etc), I'd say, shrug your shoulders and let her live how she wants. And when the time comes that you absolutely have to clear out her house, hire help. There are downsizing specialists and estate specialists who do just that. They can't do everything for you, but they can limit the number of hours of free time you put into fixing a situation you didn't create. I think it'd be worth it if you have the money at all. Good luck.
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