My boyfriend got mad at me just because I told him that he should get a job...Am I wrong?

Ok, me and my boyfriend were talking about how he wants a job so he can have money to move out on his own, provide me stuff and become independent. Our conversation was normal and I was just giving him advice and helping him out. He was like, ';I don't know, I'm scared of how it's going to turn out, going to school and working';. And I told him, ';well, you just got to balance our priorities, your plans...like how many classes you think is comfortable for you and what kind of work hours you want.'; Then he started saying ';Oh my god...here we go again about the balancing part.'; And then he start bringing up stuff that I contradict myself that I don't want him to get a job. But I told him that ';How are you gonna provide for yourself, your clothes, bills and the car you driving? Because later down the road, i'm gonna go up to the point where you need to get a job to provide for your own gas';. Then he started saying, ';Oh so now, you don't want to pay for my gas? You said you would? Like make up your mind.'; But see check this out, every time I tell him to get a job, he gets upset and I have to be the bad guy and comfort him with words that he want to hear. He keeps saying that I'm lying and don't know what to believe...and I don't understand that. So at the end when I'm trying to compromise with him and give him advice, he was like, ';You know what, F*** You!'; and hangs up. So i don't know who's wrong here.My boyfriend got mad at me just because I told him that he should get a job...Am I wrong?
I think that the advise that you are giving is great. A person does need to balance out a healthy and reasonable schedule. However, since he's your boyfriend he thinks that you are trying to tell him how to live his life and change what he believes in. If this advise came from someone other than you I think that he might actually listen to it.





Also, I don't think it's fair that you have to pay for his gas especially when he says f*** you and then proceeds to hang up the phone. That behavior is rather childish and maybe he shouldn't even be in a relationship.My boyfriend got mad at me just because I told him that he should get a job...Am I wrong?
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Well, it appears that he likes being a bum and doesn't want to change that for anyone. He'd rather leech off you than lift a finger to make his own money. Not your fault.
He has every right to collect food stamps and welfare. Leave him alone.
He sounds lazy to me and it makes him mad becuase he knows he should have a job, but doesn't want to do it.
he wants a free ride, typically i'm against ultimatums but here, i think it's time for one. you gotta say ';GET A JOB OR GTFO!!!';
No, you are right he needs to grow up able be able to take constructive criticism..
He sounds like he's 13. Better bounce his reality check again.
I have a fridge magnet which reads ';I know it' not your fault - but I'm going to blame you anyway';


Sounds like you have the same situation with your bf.


Time to consider moving on or are you planning to listen to those tantrums for the next 50 years?
Seems like your boyfriend wants a sugar daddy/momma. He needs to be the man and get his own darn gas. You should have never volunteered to pay for anything of his. That is not your responsibility. I think you two need to part. It's not a healthy relationship.
your wrong. there are no jobs. we are in a depression. unless he drops out of school and works full time it aint worth it.
1st Rule of Thumb: Find a (MAN) whom is already employed... This monkey is never going to work anywhere and will be dependent on some woman or Gay man to support him the rest of his life.. When he said F*** You!.. Turn it back on him... Move on with your life.. Why are you settling for this creep, you cannot be that desparate...
no i dont think you r wrong. when i was dating this guy he always way bored and never had money for anything. i told him maybe he should get a job and he said yea i should but never found one but whan i ask him how thaing r going he yells i dont got a job. lol yea
******* FAGGGGGGGGGGG
looks like you have a lazy *** on your hands.. move on and find another man that will provide for you as you would for him.
sounds like he is using you to start with if you are paying for his gas and stuff. dump the looser and find a real man that has a job and is already taking care of his own.
listen ur not the one thts wrong he is he cant live off of you so if he want to make YOU pay for HIS gas he isnt worth ur while and he is LAZY im very upfront bout things like that maybe if u confronted him with a worldly thing you may get across to him
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Wow it sounds to me like there is a deeper issue here than your boyfriend needing to get a job. If it was just getting a job that was on your boyfriends mind then he would not blow up whenever you casually mentioned it. It seems to me like you are being very kind and generous by helping him out since he does not have a job and he needs to be more appreciative. You are totally not in the wrong you are completely right he needs a job and he needs to learn to be independent. Life is hard and you can not just skate through on a free ride eventually he has to be responsible for something and it is not right of him to blow up at you for loving him enough to tell him the truth.
Well, most guys do not like to be pressured to be told to make life changes because you want him too. I've seen hetero and homosexual relationships fall apart because of that. Instead of commanding him to do what you want him to do, help him out. Instead of saying ';You need to get a job';, say ';Hey man, if you need any help looking for a job, im there.';





In this situation, he is not exactly confused, but he is afraid that he won't have what he always had if he goes to school and get a job. Some people can't really handle it. I've seen women and men break down from stress because they have a tough job that is not paying enough, AND going to school in which professors throw assignments, tests, and exams like bullets.





So my key points would be to not criticize him because he doesn't have a job, but to actually help him find a job. Heck, show him how to get a job, and even give him some starting points. You'll be surprised at what a bit of help can do to benefit people.





Hope that helps.
How old is he? He's going to college and he could work part-time while living at home. There are no jobs and you will STRUGGLE a lot with this economy if he moved out...unless you live in a box and you are okay with fighting over money and bills. .....................But he expects you to pay for gas and he talks to you like that???? You have more problems than just money.
i can kind of relate to what your going thru...im having the same problem with my current bf..we met about 2 months ago and it sucks because he doesnt have a job ..hes 23 and still lives with his parents..and i thnk that his parents also give him money..BUT he also says that he sells paintings and thats how he gets money on the side...honestly i dont like that...i know the economy is bad and that its hard to find a job..BUT STILL!! Ggrrr it makes me mad..i mean we just met and one time he asked me '; oh you shud take me out to the movies'; like wtf???? I was SO angry and i started thinking if i shud just let him go ...or stay with him...he asked me he would find a job by next year..and idk what to do. SO in my opinion what i would do if i was you i wuold tell him that if he doesnt find a job that its definately over ... ill probly end up doing the same thing.. if my bf doesnt find anything by next year...as much as it will hurt ..i have to let him go
'm sorry but your bf's an ***!!he's not a serious minded person!!
What he's doing is palying mind-games with you. It's a vicious form of manipulation. What's wrong is that you have allowed yourself to be taken advantage of and he is not happy when you show signs of trying to assert your rights.